Only the newly formed young couples do not even suspect that they are waiting for them, they perceive this union as a springboard for their experiments, they feel for themselves a balance in the union. But even in successful pairs, a moment comes when everyone tries to translate his fantasy set of relations, and the first problems in the relationship begin.
Still, it is very interesting, why it happens and it always happens when relations with the relationship are fiasco with the years of joint life. But if all of us constantly and regularly paid time and effort, attention to our partner, then the relationship would develop and constantly improve.
So, why are there disagreements in the relationship, especially the initially strong ones:
- often, it turns out, to give insufficient attention, time to his beloved, to further strengthen and build all the aging relationships in the family.
- often, the deterioration in the relationship of men and women, lurk in the program, laid down from childhood, parents.
After all, when we are told that in family relationships it takes a lot of patience, spending a lot of effort on understanding, respecting the partner, we most often reject it.
It seems to us that everything goes on as usual, and that everything is formed by itself. But is it?:
- the main fact remains that it is necessary to consciously choose a partner, see his shortcomings and dignities, and take them as his own, without separation, entirely.
- just need to learn to forgive each other, and not even just to agree, but understanding, and trusting a person, to rely on him, to be able to see oneself from the outside.
- it is necessary to learn to listen, hear a partner, treat everything with understanding, not rejecting, even let it seem and for nothing.
- Do not impose your own line of life, leave space for freedom. After all, no one wants to be controlled and controlled by his life. Man is his own master.
- it is always necessary to support each other, and of course together to go to one common goal.
- and the last, on the possibility not to criticize, but it's just logical to advise how to proceed, without any great emotions, calmly and judiciously, solving all the problems in the relationship of a man and a woman.
In a marriage, it is necessary not only to feel belonging to each other, but also to feel yourself and the partner as a whole. Happy relations can only be when there is full return, complete mutual understanding, respect for the individual freedom of everyone. And of course, without love, we will not get the kind of relationship we talk about, freedom of love must remain forever, throughout the whole marriage, otherwise it will grow into a certain debt and responsibilities, and a foolish sense of attachment and ownership.
The main negative situations in interpersonal relationships, appear due to the fact that partners do not always want the same thing. Because they evaluate the situation from different positions, based on a purely subjective paradigm of life perception.
Men are constantly confident that even you should not try to understand a woman. Women believe that men are not always able to take their place, and understand them. The difference between male and female love is that a woman always loves with all her heart and soul, but a man - only with his mind and body.
The most difficult thing is to love, and to continue to love for a long time and as strong and strong as the first time. Often it is possible to fall in love easily, and to be loved, but not for long, but to create a family, and to keep love, this is real art. It is quite difficult and difficult, which grows into a problem in the relationship of a man and a woman, although it does not require anything unusual from us, we just have to continue to love as sincerely.
Passionate kisses and hot embraces, are far behind, tenderness and warmth are not the same, there is routine and routine. But where has all this disappeared? In films, so many happy couples who are already in the declining years, still look at each other the same way as the first time. We do not have enough, more time to follow the desires of the partner, more to feel his self, and his desire. Understand it at the moment, and remember all those deep feelings and experiences that were with love.
A man needs to purposefully learn to see a woman in a woman, a reflection of her own soul, and not the embodiment of the mother image. A woman for a man must also be a best friend, helper and inspirer. It's just a matter of doing things: you need to stop hanging your nurse on a woman and find in yourself enough stiffness and firmness to defend your masculine freedom and independence. A woman, you need to learn to moderate your pride and see in a man who does not fulfill his desires, not a defender from all ills, but an independent person next to whom it will be interesting and worth living his life. If you give the man freedom and respect his right to self-determination, he will fulfill all the desires of the woman out of gratitude and reciprocal respect.
Near to us all the time is just the person whom we deserve. And if for some reason, it seems that we can be worthy more, then, probably, we just completely screwed ourselves up.