According to statistics, more than 60% of people are wary of all sorts of turns of fate. But what can you do, because the fear of something new is our innate feeling necessary for self-preservation. Experimenting, discovering the unknown has always been a risky business, but this is the only way leading to development. And if the desire for change has arisen, do not ignore it. It's a signal that it's time to move on.
First, determine what exactly does not suit you in life and what is necessary to change the situation. Do you dream of paying well-paid jobs, but for this it is worth moving to another city? Do you agree to this? Excellent! What's stopping you? After thinking, you come to the conclusion that none of this will work.
Why such pessimism?
Unfortunately, many of us first of all imagine a scenario with an unsuccessful finale. It is the voice of our dormant fear of change. Set yourself up in a businesslike way to assess the situation and your forces objectively. Think over the points of the action plan leading to success. Teach yourself to look for opportunities, not obstacles.
The fear of making a mistake is one more thing that stops us on the road to change. We are afraid to lose, to spoil what we already have. But everyone is sometimes mistaken, and this is normal, because that's how life experience is acquired.
The risk of a miss can be minimized . Thoroughly weigh up the pros and cons, find the information you need. Listen to intuition: if you know yourself well, the inner voice will help you make the right decision. Wait for favorable circumstances: in the summer, for example, looking for work is more difficult.
Perhaps you will have to face the resistance of relatives. They are accustomed to seeing you in the role of an obedient girl, and not an adult woman who makes decisions on her own. Do not let this stop you. Get the support of like-minded friends or relatives.
The main thing - act. If the decision is made, there will be no problems with the apartment and work, so pack up things and get on the train. But be mentally prepared for difficulties - without them there are no transitional periods. It is important to survive them, do not give up.
To overcome excessive conservatism and indecisiveness simple advice will help.
Treat change as an experiment, not an event that will forever change your life. If you feel that you can get scared and go back on the path, dedicate your best friend to your plans, let her be your "controller" and do not let you relax.
Psychologists recommend doing an exercise "grounding", giving confidence in their abilities: walking along the road, do every step sensibly, feel how you come into contact with the asphalt. It will help to feel that the earth holds you, and does not leave from under your feet.
They praised themselves for any success on the way to big changes. And remember: the more novelties in your life, the more colorful the world around.
Do you envy successful people? Remember: success has the opposite side. For example, to spend nights in clubs, you need to be lonely, free from family obligations. Therefore, formulating the goals, take into account the possible losses, which will have to go. And do not put before yourself global and impracticable tasks like "I dream of being the richest." But the desire to change jobs, moving to another city, to expand the circle of acquaintances or to buy a car is quite achievable and can bring to your life the long-awaited changes.
To become the "director" of your life at first is scary, like going out into open space, but it is very pleasant! Act - your dreams must come true!