It is necessary to solve a lot of tasks and organizational issues: you can not forget anything, lose sight of, you need to meet exactly on time.
Some couples take a mutual decision to apply to a special agency, where they offer to prepare a wedding, which is called "turnkey". That is, good people will decide everything for you and do everything, take into account the most incredible wishes and implement the most fantastic ideas, fantastic scenarios. Here you can, do not worry about the fact that your first family event will be really unique and exclusive.
The majority of couples are inclined to the combined organization of the celebration: they trust something to the agencies, and do something themselves.
And, of course, there are brave people who undertake to organize the wedding on their own, using their own resources and with the help of friends and comrades-relatives. The step is bold and not always justified. But this is a private matter for everyone. Now we will talk about something else.
Whichever variant of preparation the future spouses have chosen, it is obvious, one thing: first thing is to independently create an optimal list of guests for the wedding. Parents will be happy to join this process, but as practice shows, the task does not become easier from this, but even on the contrary, it complicates the situation. After all, the concept of an optimal list is quite capacious. And if you approach this matter with all the sensibility and responsibility, later you will be able to avoid many misunderstandings and troubles.
So, we compile an optimal list of guests for the wedding.
First, any wedding has a budget. To keep within its limits, it is necessary to approach this problem constructively, not biased with some share of cold prudence. It is important to note here that the task is not just to write a list of friends, acquaintances, friends and enemies, all kinds of relatives, neighbors and colleagues. We need to make a really good list of guests for the wedding, where the word "optimal" is the key word. By the way, the previously approved budget will help to avoid unnecessary tears, conflicts and scandals.
Secondly, almost all future newly-married couples, on one side or the other, have some malefic Aunt Motya, or heavily consuming alcohol-containing foods and under their influence, a debasing relative, Ivan Solomonovich. Before making a choice in favor of one or another guest, young people should think carefully: is it worth doing and what, in fact, is at stake? Will the married people subsequently live with the "heavy burden" of Aunt Moti's eternal offense or listen to the fierce torrent of Ivan Solomonovich's drunken fighting on joint family holidays? Whatever it was, all this will happen later, a postscript, and not on the day of celebration, when nothing should darken a bright holiday. There is no place for misunderstandings, scandals, fights and any offenses in general. Therefore, before making a list of invitees, it is necessary to think carefully about all possible options and consequences.
One more important point. It is important, for a long time before the expected date, to calmly count all potential guests who are scheduled to be invited to the wedding. Then, subject this list to a hard copy. Well, and then, as necessary, make adjustments and situational changes. However, it is not necessary to delay this case: again, the budget is not rubber, and all adjustments should be made first of all, so as not to shake the material well-being of the future family. Also, the rule of good tone is to send invitation cards (or verbally invite: it all depends on upbringing, culture and family traditions) at least two weeks before the significant date, and even earlier. After all, the bride and groom are actively preparing for the wedding, but also future guests. They also need to be given time to understand, prepare for the upcoming event, and also, so that they can tell if they can even honor you with their presence. This is an important question that can not be overlooked.
Another significant point. When the list of guests for the wedding is made, passed, all possible editions and even approved, in order to avoid unpleasant incidents and a certain "surprise moment", it would be good for the newlyweds to stir their memory and remember all those people who can appear at the wedding without invitation and warning. If such a surprise can be a pleasant surprise - it is necessary to allocate an additional expense item. Well, if a visit to your celebration by some personalities is absolutely not desirable - you need to take appropriate measures.
Perhaps this is the first joint family preparation, a responsible choice that will affect the entire course of the upcoming wedding celebration. In such an important matter as drawing up a list of guests for a wedding without compromise, you can not do. This will be a good training in the ability to respect each other's opinions, in the ability to listen and hear, give in and sacrifice. Ahead is a grand event that will change the whole habitual way of life, a huge step forward. In a new future, with each other.