Modern society is changing very quickly, and the institution of the family does not have time for it. Perhaps, that's why psychologists started talking about the crisis of the family. In fact, there could be no crisis if we, women, treated relations in the family less conservatively. Of course, we can say that it is not in the women's power to change some things, and that it is impossible to change another spouse, and without it nothing will come out. But still, the main role in preserving the hearth has always belonged to women. So let's try to figure out what it means to be conservative in a relationship with a husband.
Just a couple of decades ago, families were built on absolutely different principles than now. The family was created in order to make it easier to maintain a joint farm, raise children. The woman was seen primarily as a housewife, even if she worked. Not surprisingly, in such families it was best to "live on the Domostroi". In such a union, love did not necessarily have to be in the first place, much more valuable was the agreement between husband and wife. Sometimes the couple continued to live together out of habit, even if they lost mutual understanding.
Now society has changed so that women have received equality with men not only nominally, it is supported by the appropriate size of the salary and the independence of the woman. And it is still difficult for men to come to terms with the absence of a hot dinner and the fact that his wife is late at work. In the minds of many people there is still a stereotype that a proper marriage is built on patriarchal attitudes.
However, to adhere to conservative positions in relations with her husband, it is not only to recognize his leadership in the family. There are stereotypes in the society as to how the husband's behavior and wife's behavior should be, how to raise children, etc. But each family is as individual as each of its members. Therefore, adhering to a certain line of behavior "by inertia", you can miss something important in the relationship. And now quarrels begin, mutual discontent, children become disobedient, and spouses are thinking about divorce. Notice, quarrels and dissatisfaction with the husband were also encountered in the families of our parents, but they resorted to divorce only as an extreme measure. Now people are getting divorced more often because the partner is bored, does not understand, is not attentive, there are few common interests with him.
The reason for this phenomenon is not that people have changed, and it is not so easy to find a reliable person next to whom one could live life. The reason is that people think more about the outside of marriage, what parents, neighbors, friends will think. Adhering to conservative positions, we forget that the antonym of "conservatism" is "flexibility." We forget that in relations it is important to adjust to the partner. This does not contradict the traditional role of women in the family and society. But in that case, what does it mean to be conservative in a relationship with your husband?
Conservative in relations with her husband can be in matters of education of children, sex, the role of each of the family members. First of all, conservatism means that a woman does not try to find out the needs of her husband (and children), but she strives for some ideal ideas. Under the conservatism of sex, shyness, shame, and lack of sexual education are often hidden. In relations, conservatism is manifested in an attempt to subordinate not only their behavior, but also the behavior of other family members imposed from outside the routine. It often turns out that husbands do not even mind to somehow diversify their relations, try new roles. But wives, unfortunately, do not always know to ask them about it.
Think about whether to turn your family life into a boring following the rules and traditions, or maybe it's worth developing your own rules? If you are unhappy with something in your relationship with your husband, is it not time to talk to him about it? How to know, maybe he himself waits a long time, when you offer some new idea.
In any case, conservatism, this is not an excuse for your complexes or an unwillingness to change something. It is not necessary to be conservative if you do not know how to build your relationship with your husband. If you want a harmonious relationship in the family, you need to remember that the family is primarily a dialogue. In order to create and maintain a warm atmosphere in the family, you need to build relationships through dialogue with your partner. Then it will not be so important who is the master of the house and how to behave in the kitchen or in bed.