Psychiatrists say that 75 percent of the residents of our state suffer from various mental abnormalities. These not quite normal characters live next to us and at times fairly spoil the nervous system to healthy people. Therefore, it is worth learning how to recognize them, quickly identifying the negative traits of a person's character. How to recognize and how to behave properly with such people will be discussed below.
BORETS FOR THE IDEA
A man of this type possesses irrepressible energy and unbending willpower. And his energy is usually directed to one channel, and more often - to fight against someone. For example, a grandmother-wrestler can arrange a whole case against young neighbors who live from above, who, according to her, too loudly include music, stomping and in every way violate her peace. It will upholster the thresholds of bureaucratic institutions in order to achieve "justice". And, worst of all, her tenacity is usually rewarded, and she achieves her goal. Because the victories inspire such people with remarkable energy, and the defeats only kindle the hunting instinct.
Another type of fighter - a "mad scientist" - can forever invent a perpetual motion machine. It will not be difficult for him to quit his decent work and poking around in his own "laboratory" for days on end. By the way, the "family" apartment is easily transformed into a "laboratory" if it is filled with pieces of iron, diagrams and drawings. Too bad that it is impossible for a wife and young children to live in such a mess, and spit on the fact that they need material support from their father! The "mad scientist" has enough conscience to show his wife dissatisfaction with the fact that she does not provide for the family, while he is busy with business.
By the way, the peculiarity of the character of the "fighter" person is the division of all those around into "friends" and "enemies". Friends are those who share his ideas, and enemies are all the rest. "Enemies" do not envy. After all, the "Fighter" has an uncommon willpower and in his revenge goes to the end.
How to communicate?
If you do not share the viewpoint of "Fighter for the idea", keep silent about it in a rag, otherwise you have the opportunity to make yourself a powerful enemy. But if a miracle happens and your goals coincide with him, unite! Thanks to "Fighter" you will achieve a lot. In other cases, try to stay away from it. Since the negative traits of this person's character - suspiciousness, aggressiveness, insubordination to other people's problems - extend to all his surroundings.
THE MAN IN FUTLER
Remember, in the famous story of Chekhov's "Man in a Case", the teacher of geography was not allowed to live trivial fears and doubts? He repeated all the time: "What would have happened," but in the end so worried that even died. This teacher is a collective image of all doubting personalities.
Such people can never calm down. Even when everything is good, they are tormented by doubts: "Did I do everything right?", "Why did Marya Petrovna look at me so unkindly?".
I have one friend who spends about an hour to get out of the house. And all because of the fact that for a long time checks the bolts, electrical appliances, water and locks. She constantly feels that she forgot something to close or turn it off. This woman does not need to break off from work at the height of the work day and go to the other end of the city, to make sure again: the apartment was not robbed.
But with all their negative character traits, such people are very reliable and responsible. They are excellent friends - always sympathize, come to the rescue in a difficult moment and never do meanness deliberately. However, be prepared for constant whining and moaning. "A man in a case" twenty-four hours a day is in a state of fear and anxiety. With him, you will have to play the role of a psychotherapist: constantly encourage and inspire confidence in his soul mate.
How to communicate?
As closely as possible, watch your behavior, words and tone of voice. After all, "Man in a case" can even upset an evil look. Never criticize it, you'd better praise it. If you need to ask him about the service - do not be shy: this kind soul into the cake will break, but fulfill the promise. However, the assignment should be given as clearly as possible. Do not say: "Go to the store and buy some meat." He will go, but will not return soon, because he will not know: a) which store he should go to; b) what and how much meat to buy. It is necessary to say: "Go to the supermarket (that's the address), buy a kilogram of beef and return quickly."
DANGEROUS TIRAN
Unfortunately, a person with this type of character is not able to control his own outbursts of anger. "Tyrant" is getting sick for the most trifling occasion, and then for a long time can not come to the senses. The fact is that his irritation and anger build up regardless of the circumstances. In certain periods, "Tirana" is vital to find an excuse to "break" on someone else, otherwise negative emotions will start eating away from inside. It will not be particularly difficult, as a living example, to resurrect in your memory the image of someone else's (or perhaps your own?) Captious spouse or an angry boss.
Between the outbursts of anger the tyrant can produce quite a favorable impression, but this is not for long. A small speck on clothes or a late dinner for at least a minute can incite in his soul resentment and anger, which immediately spreads out to others. At the moments of the "terrible judgment", all their "sins" are remembered. Evil mood can arise even by itself, for no apparent reason. Sometimes the "black period" stretches for several days.
These people demand unquestioning obedience to themselves, but they themselves do not tolerate an orderly tone. Egoism in them is combined with malice and aggression. Sometimes the "Tyrants" are so unable to control outbreaks of their own fury that they find themselves on the dock as guilty of murder. Forensic psychiatry knows many such cases. Therefore, with the "Tyrants" you have to be very careful.
How to communicate?
Unfortunately, the negative features of the character of "Tyrant" can not be altered, and periods of malice will always be. The only way out is to stop communicating with him. Well, if the scandal has already happened, try not to argue, avoid contradictions and orderly tone, so as not to provoke a new outburst of anger. Someday the villain will "perebesitsya", and you breathe easy. True, not for long, and soon everything will happen again.
STAR OF THE SCREEN
Usually, "star" (in a scientific - hysterical) character is possessed by women, but men with similar traits also occur. These people are hard not to notice. The lady looks defiantly and emphatically sexy. The man is bright and stylish. He always has a mirror with him, where he looks at his irresistible face. These people are not interested in anything but their own personality. They are sure of their uniqueness and think that everyone else should know about this. "Stars" do not know how to listen, but they are talented about their dignity, wealth and love victories, doing it so skillfully that they themselves begin to believe in what they say.
They would cause less problems if people did not take them seriously. However, a florid lie kills common sense and, for example, the boss, having listened to a braggart, assigns to him a responsible project or appoints him to a high position. Khvastun, however, is not in a hurry to start new duties, and the working hours are spent boasting before his colleagues of his grandiose successes.
It's dangerous to be friends with Zvezda. Assuring her friend of her own devotion and loyalty, she will not hesitate to build eyes on her husband and necessarily try to seduce him. If it succeeds, then "Star" can easily come to a friend and tell about its "fall" in all its details. The traitor will begin to sob, beg forgiveness, say that she is terribly ashamed of herself and of him, that she could not help it, that he himself ... However, it is not necessary to believe her, because she seduced her husband in order to prove to herself: " I'm the best, and all men are crazy about me. "
How to communicate?
"Star" is an unrealized actress (or actor). Such people feel the need for attention and therefore attract it by any means, not disdaining even the most immoral. In order not to awaken the volcano of the negative traits of the character of the person-"Stars", admire her positive qualities: wit, sociability, activity. Otherwise, she will start to plot and plot against you intrigue, only to attract your attention. In any case, do not allow a woman - "Star" too close to his wife - will try to fight off.
Of course, there are more varieties of strange characters than we have listed here. Often there are explosive mixtures of several types, for example, "Star of the screen" + "The fighter for the idea." However, even this "rattles" can be controlled with the help of the above-described methods of communication.