Men, like any mysterious phenomena and poorly studied objects, are surrounded by a huge number of myths. Word of mouth roams the female minds of the legend that men are emotionless, that they only think that about sex, they constantly change and do not want to marry in any way. It's time to find out the truth about what men really are. Here's what every girl should know about men. And, at the same time, about themselves.
1. Not all men change!
Do you have another fit of groundless jealousy? You rummaged through all the incoming calls and messages in his mobile, the eyeset with the eyes of the organizer and rummaged through all the pockets - and did not find anything? And at that time your beloved man enjoyed life. He did not bother his brain with any nonsense, did not humiliate you with stupid suspicions, did not change his plans ten times a day. And he loved you all this time. Without any "and if ...".
In fact, the talk about male love is not so groundless. Yes, men are slightly more likely than girls to be polygamous. Yes, their instincts are slightly more powerful over them. But not at all and not always. Scientists have long proven that the number of adulterations of men and women almost go "nostril to the nostril." Just girls change a little differently, they are more cautious, they are very rarely able to catch red-handed.
If a man really loves, he becomes an opponent of betrayals no less than a woman. He also does not represent anyone except his beloved. He also wants to be alone with her, with her alone until the very end. And any woman should believe it with all her heart, if she loves it too.
2. It is not true that men are stronger, so they have to solve all problems.
Many girls live with full confidence that at their first call for help a man immediately has to re-dress from a business suit to a knight's armor. And go to save her. And let him just try not to cope! He expects derogatory: "Well, what are you after this man? .."
The man, of course, is much more enduring and better equipped. It is easier for him to solve logical problems and perform physical exercises. But this does not mean that his direct duty is to throw the world at the feet of a woman at any convenient moment and nail the nails with one glance only. The man in general is by nature very vulnerable. He is much more in need of support and support in difficult situations than a woman. It is easier to break and break. Psychologists calculated that men are five times more difficult to tolerate pain, are 3 times more tired and on average, 40% more likely to get sick. However strange it may seem. Hence the great predisposition of men to vice - drunkenness and drug addiction - from weakness. But this is a completely different story.
The girl first of all should accept the idea that in this life no one owes much to anyone. And that to be self-sufficient is much more fascinating than constantly depend on a man. It is more interesting to do great things, to achieve success, to build your own destiny. But even if you can find such a superman, ready for any feat for the sake of his beloved, it is worth considering how boring and uninteresting life will be. And it will become mandatory. Alas.
3. Men also cry.
The girl is perplexed: "How insensitive he is!", Watching him calmly chew popcorn during the scene of the drowning of DiCaprio in the Titanic. In fact, psychologists assure - despite external equanimity and reinforced concrete, men tend to show rather strong emotions. And they are experiencing it all much harder and longer. It just happens away from the eyes, alone with yourself and extremely rarely visible. Men keep emotions to themselves. Is it because they live less? ..
Actually, men are different. There are also those who have everything for show - and laughter, and tears, and love. But such representatives of the stronger sex are treated with distrust. Somehow instinctively I want to feel in a man strength. And this does not fit with emotionality. So, and completely soulless - bad, and unnecessarily sincere - even worse. Try to please.
4. Not all men need "only one."
Yes, it is not excluded that a man gives expensive gifts, leads to restaurants, promises gold mountains just to drag the girl to bed. But not all so prosaic. According to statistics, 83 out of 100 men do this solely out of a desire to build a real serious long-term relationship with a woman. And this is not a myth! It's not true that men want from women only sex. It is nonsense. It is worth spending so much effort, time and money, wanting to get what many will give simply for the greatest pleasure. Just a man likes to win. And the trophy conquered in a long and difficult battle is simply not thrown away. They cherish, they keep and cherish it. Men need this feeling of drive, passion, tenderness - and not the fact of the girl's presence in his bed. Well, of course, if he is a real man.
5. Men believe that a rich experience is cool.
While the girl is fanning the myth about the huge number of his girls in his head, the man thinks about how to support this myth. He does his best to "promote" his rich sexual experience, without wounding or offending her at the same time. In fact, this moment is almost always exaggerated. But this weakness for men can and should be forgiven. The main thing - do not sweat about his numerous (according to his close friends) ex. In the end, if the experience really is - it's even better! It remains only to enjoy.
6. It's not true that men are afraid of serious relationship.
This may sound strange, but all men are completely different. Like women. And as soon as one concrete man meets a concrete girl, who in turn suddenly turns his life upside down at once - he is ready for anything, only to be with her side always. And if this desire does not arise, if the zeal to build and strengthen the relationship does not appear later - it's not because the man was frightened. He just met the wrong woman. In the majority, normal men are not at all afraid of serious relationships, but simply look for those women with whom they can be built.
7. It is not true that men should always take the first step.
Again, the question that no one has anything to anyone ... However, a man certainly should take some initiative somewhere, but if this does not happen - it does not matter. Often a girl just needs to decide for herself what the man would have decided to do even oh how much. Many couples simply would not have developed from the very beginning, if there were no initiative girls in the world.
By the way, according to statistics, 93% of the male population do not see anything criminal in that the girl first gave a signal about the intention to get closer. And 30% of them dream only about this!
8. Men also gossip.
The widespread judgment that a real man needs to grind not with tongue, but deal with business, dissolves, as soon as men in the company becomes more than one. Men also have the concept of "chatting", only they have it called "to talk for life." Their gossip is sometimes even more sophisticated than women's. And if no self-respecting girl does not discuss the details of her intimate life in a wide circle of friends, men, on the contrary, enthusiastically suck a topic like "and when I pulled off her panties ...". Therefore, deciding to open with a man, it should be remembered that his word can be not only honest, but also very loud.
9. Appearance for a man - not the main thing.
Men really, like all normal people, pay attention to appearance. But only the first two minutes. And then they want to see something beautiful behind the scenery. And when they find this "something", happiness for the man does not have a limit.
However, a rich inner world often hides behind unsightly scenery. And to make out it is quite difficult. But believe me - men do it! And with great success. Yes, they like beautiful outwardly girls (and who does not like something?), But they also are able to appreciate the mind and spiritual depth. And this is for them, strangely enough, the main thing is. And the men themselves are tired of constantly saying that.
10. Men drive a car no better than women!
This is the loudest myth about men, that they are the best drivers. It is not true! It has long been proven that women are more careful, more selective and will never drive only to tickle their nerves. They, of course, sometimes panic, but who said that men do not do the same? And where to put statistics on which accidents involving female drivers are only 3%? In general, men, although a strong sex, but the car drive is not any better than women.
That's the main thing that every girl should know about men. Having debunked several myths, we begin to look at things in a new way. And since a man - by no means a thing - to look at him "with other eyes" is doubly worthwhile. This can save many unions. Or create them.