Women often do not understand, or rather, do not want to understand that for a professional man, a breadwinner in the family, such a breadwinner in all respects, the fact of job loss is much worse than they think. Psychologists say that this is much more painful in the mental state of men than women. After all, men's self-esteem is directly related to the social situation and the extent to which it took place "in business."
For a man, lack of work means not only a loss of permanent income, but also a daily occasion to be proud of. And if there is no reason to be proud - then there is an occasion to complex. The man begins to feel shame and inconvenience to friends, relatives and even to former colleagues. Even the strongest man at this moment wants to lie on the sofa, not think about anything, do not see anyone, do not participate in anything. That's where the loving and understanding wife should interfere, which will not let her husband get unstuck. To lament that "husband lost his job" is meaningless, and a sofa and doing nothing is just a temporary measure. Yes, a man needs rest after stress, but in any case, do not allow him to grow into an unlimited vacation.
The main thing that is important for a woman is to support her man. Let him know that he is not alone, that he is surrounded by his family, his wife, who will be able to support, listen, help. Do not blame him - he is not so sweet, and accusations of a loved one will certainly not correct the situation. Rather, they will aggravate his depression. Although, and abuse of pity is also not worth it. Do not endlessly iron the man on the head, assuring that everything will be fine. Remember, there is a man in front of you, not a small child. Nothing will be "good" unless you take any action for this, unless you try to remedy the situation. Nothing will change the comfort consoles like "you do not want to talk about it"? You need a business conversation, and help is concrete.
A truly loving woman can always listen, give advice, disassemble the situation. A woman is able to do this, even if she does not fully understand the essence of her husband's professional activity. To do this, it is not necessary to disassemble the subtleties of computer assembly or business transactions to ask: "How are you going to proceed? Looking for a new job? I can help you. " So, what can you do to help? Edit the available Internet resources for employment, prepare and send out a resume, analyze the responses received. And do not focus too much on the fact that you are helping. No exclamations like "you lost your job, and I'm looking for a solution" ... Also, you will need to think about how to avoid damaging male inactivity. After all, responses to a resume do not come instantly. For example, start some repair work at the dacha. Do what has long been collected, but always postponed. And praise your husband for how well he coped with the work.
It is at this time on the shoulders of a woman that the additional burden is borne - this concerns not only assistance in the search for a new job. For a period of time you can become the only source of funding for the family. The main thing to remember: it's hard not only for you, but for your husband. You can shift some of the usual household chores at this time to the one who spends more time at home. But this must be done in tactful form. After all, you will agree that the phrase "I now earn one, so you wash dishes" and "darling, I'm more tired now, could you go to the store today" - are they significantly different from each other? Do not be rude to your husband - it will not lead to anything good.
Do not let your husband constantly feel sorry for yourself and mope: life is full of everything interesting and fascinating. Break the habitual way and start to get out more often somewhere: to the cinema, to the exhibition, just to visit - to whom that is more like. Invent together some hobbies, engage in a new sport - this is the best relief from stress and depression. Continually do something together. Give your husband to understand that life is not over, it is full of pleasant surprises, not just disappointments and unjust decisions. Show your husband that in spite of temporary difficulties, he is still your mainstay and the head of the family. This man never forgets, he will always appreciate it. He will do everything to keep such a loving and caring family, ensuring its prosperity. He will break into the board to regain his position, and the tragedy called "husband lost his job" will end safely for all of you.