Many girls ask questions about the thoughtless embezzlement of their guys. One of them reads: "What if a guy spends a lot of money on a car? ".
It's no secret that almost for any man the car is the most favorite toy. But, sometimes, these games lead to the fact that the family budget begins to pop at the seams. That's when the girls begin to think what to do if a guy spends a lot of money on a car?
So, to begin with, you need to honestly answer yourself: are these costs justified? If a guy spends on a car, but, at the same time, transportation is necessary for him to work, then such costs are justified. But, there are certain variations. It may be that the money spent on a car is much more than what is earned. In this case, you need to do something. But, to take away a guy's car - it's like taking a favorite toy from a child. He will never give it up without a fight. Therefore, you need to choose the right tactics and spend a lot of time to explain to him that these costs are meaningless and in time you will remain not only without a car, but without an apartment. What should I do and how to speak?
First you need to evaluate the machine. Living with a motorist, women, sooner or later, begin to understand this area. So guess how much time a guy will spend money on repairs. If you understand that two or three more purchases and the car will be in excellent condition, then just be patient. Of course, it's difficult for you, but, in fact, it's worth it. But, if you understand that your loved one spent spending repairs on your car, spends and will spend it, and there will be no end to the edge, then you have to admit that this is really stupid. Of course, your boyfriend does not think so, and if he does, he does not. Maybe he understands that the money goes more than he expected, but stubbornly continues to make purchases. First, try to talk to him calmly. Most likely, because of the costs of the car you have a lot of things that you had to abandon. It is worth making a list of these unrealized purchases and what a young man spends on money. Of course, next to all things and details should be the price. Show him this list and explain that it is better for him to change jobs to the one where transportation is not necessary, because the costs are higher than your salary. Of course, the guy will try to give you a lot of reasons, but, in this case, you need to be persistent, but calm. You should never make hysterics. Female hysterics - the first indicator for a man that the lady is not right. They are accustomed to that, having no arguments, we begin to achieve something by crying and tears. Also it is necessary to recognize, that partly it is the truth. So be calm and insist on your own.
But, if you understand that he really can not change jobs, and dismissal will become even more blow to the budget - will have to accept. In this case, any of your arguments lose before what he says.
It's quite another thing when a car in your family is used only for entertainment. In this case, you need to insist on your own until the last and do not retreat. When in the family instead of a car pimped, repair never ends. And if the grieving motorist finally replaces the last detail, the first one, which he bought for repair, is already worn out. This is a vicious circle from which there is no way out. Therefore, in the case when a young man absolutely does not want to give up his toy, invite him to keep a separate budget. Explain to the beloved that you are doing this not because you feel sorry for him, but because every month things are getting worse and worse. You have a lot of unsold purchases, which are already necessary or will become so in the very near future. Therefore, if you can not explain to him how much the car undermines the budget, let him feel it. Invite him to buy food for himself and everything you need on your own, and, also, invest money to pay for housing. Of course, the guy can be offended, but most likely he will agree to such an adventure, to prove his case.
Such an experiment will very soon bear fruit. Often, when a man spends a lot on a car, large sums for really necessary purchases are allocated from his salary by a woman. If he has to pay everything himself, he will understand that the expenses exceed his salary. Of course, a man seldom recognizes his rightness. So do not expect that he will come and say that you are right. But you will notice this in his behavior. He himself will spend less and less on the car. Also, as long as you keep a separate budget, try to prodrive something that you wanted to buy, but there was not enough money. This will be an excellent example of proof of your rightness.
But, unfortunately, this does not always help. There are guys who will never give up and will not give up their desires. In this case, it is worth accepting and pretending that you agree. Otherwise, everything will simply end with constant scandals and analysis of flights.
Perhaps the next tip will seem dishonest, but, in this case, it can be the only way out. You can just not tell the guy the whole amount of salary and save a certain amount for some purchases. In this case, he himself will have to spend less money, because he feels that you will not be enough for the necessary. If you buy something for the deferred money, you can explain it with the gifts of the parents. Of course, he will think that he was right, but it's better to keep silent about his rightness, than to deny himself the necessary.