The ideal man - a reality or a myth? What does he look like? "The ideal man through the eyes of a woman" is the theme of our today's article.
From early childhood in the life of every girl there is an ideal image of a dream man - a fairy prince. He is already endowed with all the necessary qualities that only an ideal man can possess. And we actively begin to look for him among our friends, friends, acquaintances and strangers. We continue to seek this ideal by making mistakes, deceiving ourselves or even if we have already made the choice of a partner in life.
But who is he, this mysterious stranger? And why does the legend live and flourish that, even if you meet him, get the heart of an ideal, still remains impossible? It is uncontrollable, like sand seeping through your fingers, a river that periodically changes its course, like an instant that will never happen again. Without remaining for a long time and not giving promises, he goes to his friend, boss, it does not matter, the main thing - to another woman. And after a while the cycle repeats and the other one is already crying into the pillow, having lost her ideal man ... But what is the reason? And then we begin to blame ourselves, reproach ourselves that we did not do our best, etc. But it may not be about us, but about it?
What do we know about the ideal man? What is he? There is no single answer to this question.
But if we set ourselves the goal to keep him in his clinging claws, then we must be ready to fight all his life with visible and phantom threats. We will need to learn how to anticipate and warn the dangers: where an experienced hunter scattered traps, where a lone lioness lurked in ambush, and our ideal man flies to them like an inexperienced bird to the scorching sun. On our shoulders will be entrusted the mission of preserving the ideality of the acquired ideal. After all, he should always be dressed with a needle and sated and tastily nourished. And since he spends his time on doing good deeds, he does not have enough time for earthly cares of time. And the account does not mean that you still have children, for whom you also need to look after them impeccably. And what about the ideal woman? What should it look like? Where to take so much time to manage everything and keep the balance of the state of mind? This vicious circle does not break, but if you dare - the ideal will slip away from you.
This is such a harsh myth. Or maybe this is reality? How much do we know of people who witness this most ideal man? Not on TV screens, not in romance novels, but the present. One who lives in the realities of our world, and not in the imagination of writers and directors. Can we brag of such acquaintances?
The question arises: what should a woman do, the life path of which never met the ideal man? Dedicate all your life to searching and remain lonely, cherishing your dream? Can it post ads, connect friends and organize searches for that ideal?
There is another unnamed option. The ideal man can still be created. Make every effort and teach him to dress neatly, beautifully look after, listen to you for hours, be passionate in bed, quit bad habits and acquire useful ones ... This list can be continued indefinitely. But there is one but. How can you get your heart to tell us that this man is the most unforgettable ideal? It will be for us a read book, in which we memorize each line by heart, since they themselves wrote it.
That's why we have to suffer, exhaust ourselves and wait, wait, wait ...
But why then, when most women meet a man who is not perfect, with many shortcomings, a snatch of predators cling to him, get married and in most cases are happy in marriage?
The answer is trite simple. It is enough to look around, to really look at the world where far from ideal people, both men and women, live. This is the beauty of our universe. Instead of searching for and identifying shortcomings, we should pay attention to the dignity of the person, his inner world, which can compensate for a hundred times not only the personal disadvantages of men, but also our own, to fill our lives with new meanings, ideas and values. But we are so busy raising our own level of ideality and revealing its level to others that we spend all our free time and energy on this continuous process, instead of giving the non-ideal man a chance to reveal himself and truly express himself.
All ideals sooner or later undergo changes, so why not revise their attitude to the very notion of "ideal". That's how the ideal man looks through the eyes of a woman.