You can not forgive, you can not come back

Sometimes, when you love a person, it seems that it is possible to forgive everything. But, there are things that can not be forgiven. And for each person they are different. But, after these cases, you realize that it's impossible to return. Here you live, knowing: you can not forgive, you can not return.

It's just too difficult to become, when you can not forgive, you can not return, and you continue to love him. You understand that you can not do as he does. Perhaps it harms someone or you because of problems in the family, complexes and much more. You repeat this every time as a mantra to forgive. And then comes the turning point, when the awareness of everything that is happening covers the ninth shaft and it is no longer possible to live with it, and without it it is so painful and empty. You always think about forgiving him. After all, you can not take the same thing with one stroke, all that is good that you had. But, since you are a reasonable person, you understand that if you return to him, the suffering will continue. Although, on the other hand, when it is not around, it seems that you are even worse.

In fact, we are not afraid to forget love. We are afraid to forget all those little things, all the special things that bound us together. Over the years, when a person was close to us, we become attached to him, we study him. We know that he loves, and that he hates, we know how he will act in this or that situation, we know why he is silent and what he wants to say. When you lose such a person, even at your own will, of course, it hurts because someone now will know too, either you, or someone will do wrong, because he does not know. And yet, I do not want to start over again, to start learning and experiencing all the moments that you experienced before you became a couple. But, in fact, sometimes you still need to leave the past behind and go ahead. Good memories are still always ours. No one can take it away. And if we understand that it is no longer worth forgiving, then this person really does not fit and we need to find another. Even if it seemed earlier that this is the second half. For each person, the reasons for parting can be different. Some guy insults and beats, someone simply ignores, someone understands that he can not live with such a hopeless person, and some notice that his beloved is too mean and two-faced to his family and friends. In any case, it is this reason that is the reason for parting. How can you be sure that everything is right? In fact, when you forgive and understand it for too long, such thoughts do not suddenly come to mind. They are the result of long reflections and experiences. Therefore, such decisions are really weighed and wise. Do not punish yourself for doing it. Of course, now it's hard for you and remember the good things that have happened between you, nostalgia begins, tears, tantrums and experiences. Do not let yourself relax and sink into such a state. And if this happens - you need to remember what caused the parting. This was not a trifle, but serious things that you simply could not reconcile with, even though you wanted to. Therefore, think about them more often, even if these memories cause anger. It's better to be angry and curse a person than to cry for him at night, holding the phone in your hands and hating yourself for making that choice and throwing a beautiful person. Of course, most likely it is not bad, or it once was. But, at the moment, his behavior is really wrong and you do not have to put up with it. Therefore, always keep yourself in hand, do not allow yourself to call and write to him. You have to hold on for the first couple of months, and then everything will pass. Well, of course, not all and not immediately, but it will become easier unambiguously. Over time, you can even be friends, if, of course, you want it. After all, it happens that a person does not suit you as a second half, but, at the same time, is a very good friend, whom you love purely humanly. Therefore, do not completely abandon people when love passes. But to resume romantic relationships, too, is not worth it. It is necessary to understand that if the parting has already taken place, and it happened not spontaneously, but according to your desire and after long meditations, it means only that everything is done correctly. If you return to the young man, he will again begin to behave the same way and the situation will repeat. And you will be hurt again, you will suffer again, parting with it. Therefore, this pain is best to survive once, and not savor it constantly. Stay true to your decisions and do not convince yourself that the guy will change. Of course, there are such cases, but they are really isolated. Basically, a person just tries to pretend that he has changed to return someone. If he does it, at first he plays a role, but then everything returns to normal. It takes a very long time to be sure that the person has completely changed. Therefore, even if you decide to come back, you will have to wait a very, very long time. But it's not a fact that it will happen. Therefore, do not give yourself hope, if you are not sure that everything will turn out as you want. Allow yourself to live on, move forward and make new acquaintances with men. If the person you truly left behind is your destiny, it will change and life will still bring you together. But, if he just met in order for you to have a certain experience, then you should never hold on to him with your hands and feet. Learn not to give up your decisions, even if it hurts and bad. Life does not always bring us gifts, but tests are not just given. Sometimes you need to realize that a person is not worthy of our love and just let him go. Be sure that even if now you are worried because of your decision, in time you will know exactly what it was the most correct, and when it is canceled, everything would have been much worse.