Example No. 1
The boy had a birthday, he was well noted. The kid was only five years old. The next day, parents began to notice that when a child looks at them, he begins to blink strongly, and his eyelids and brows are freckled. A few days later they noticed that the baby was restlessly asleep, kept jumping up and crying in his sleep: "What are you doing? Are not you ashamed? "
After a while the son began to behave strangely, he always went behind his mother's tail, did not let her go anywhere from home, and if she went into the store, he would start to beat her, scream and cry. Mom took the holidays was always with the child, but his condition did not improve. The nervous tick ticked over his cheeks and hands, the kid always clenched his fist, as if he wanted someone to give it away. Parents decided to see a doctor, who in turn appointed a patient, the sleep was normal, but the remaining symptoms remained, so they applied to the social service of personal relationships.
It turned out that the boy hates his father, but he does not mogobyasnit why it happens. He kept saying that he was afraid to stay alone and was afraid of losing his mother. The kid in his five years claimed that with women, anything can happen, because they are defenseless. The patient did not have a mood, and he constantly worried about his mother and pestered with questions: "Pravdali that men are stronger than women?". To find out the reason for this change of behavior, the parents decided to recall what happened on the birthday of the baby. My mother asked me a long time, and then she told me that when she and her husband stayed in the empty room, he, despite the fact that she was against, forced her to have an intimacy. After that, the husband left the room, and the mother began to recover and suddenly heard the cry of her child. It turned out that the children played hide and seek and the son while hiding in the room and involuntarily saw everything that was happening there. Mom pretended that nothing had happened, although she was very worried. When she told me about this husband, they came to the conclusion that they would pretend that nothing terrible had happened.
A familiar psychologist claimed that because of this there can be no uger of any illnesses, but the next morning the boy was already sick, he had a neurosis. The result was that the boy saw the mother's resistance during the sexual act. To return the child was a condition, the therapist had to make a lot of efforts, but, at the end of the end, he eventually recovered.
Example No. 2
Parents have led the girl of four years to the doctor with complaints nato, that she is engaged in an onanism. Outwardly, it did not differ from other children, then what happened to it?
You need to know that the kid will never tell you the reasons, the doctors always look for them themselves. The main thing for a doctor is that he must understand the spiritual condition of a person. The girl was shy, but wanted to command the others. She wanted to be a leader, but why? If the baby felt like a shared attention, then immediately rushed to cry, but in another situation she began to irritate the genitals and she liked it, and she did it all the time without hiding, but right before my mother's eyes.
What is the reason? The girl did not receive enough love from her parents, so she wanted to attract attention by all means, but she did not know how. Once she saw how parents have sex, so she initially imitated adults, doing masturbation. The girl was cured, but if the parents were more careful, this would not have happened.
If your child sees something forbidden or will see it all the time, then there is a risk that it will grow defective, or even voobscheanyakom. Some believe that it is better if the child sees the sexual intercourse of the parents than their scandals. It's another matter if the baby sees his dad is not slymy, but vice versa, mom is not with Dad. Children always feel betrayal.
Still, you should not allow such situations that the child has become a witness of some kind of intimate relationship between you.
If the kid has his own room, then it's good, but if he did see what he did not need to see? Perhaps he will enter the room in the moment of the highest boiling point and do not understand anything, just come out and cry or maybe even feel disgust. Do not let this situation go to nothing, immediately reassure the baby, convince him that your love for him has not disappeared anywhere.
Do not worry yourself and do not you dare to shout at the child. For him it is very important that there was on your faces the moment when he entered the room and saw all this. The kid may think that something bad and frightening happened in the bedroom, if there is hatred and angry on your face.
You can tell the child that you were doing sports exercises, which only two people can do that they love each other. Do not tell him that you played. For young children, the game is sacred and it can hate you for not calling it with you.
Do not shout and do not kick the crumb from the room with the words: "You're still small! It does not concern you! ยป. Do not pretend to have committed a crime.
Calmly explain to the crumb that the fact that he saw this is the best thing that can happen in adults, perhaps even worth saying, that when he grows up, he will also do it. You can say that you give him a sister or a brother. There is nothing wrong with the fact that a child is cured that children are associated with sexual relations.
At the age of 2 to 3 years, children develop sexual curiosity, the boy wants to see how his mother will wash, and the girl breaks into the shower with her dad. For children it is important to know the differences between a nude man and a woman.
If the baby does not protect everything from all, then problems may arise later. If suddenly a child enters the room when you are undressing, you should not shout and drive him out, but from a small age, teach him, before you enter the room you have to knock, wait a bit, come in apom. If till now you have not accustomed the kid to this, then do it now, before it's too late to fix the situation. Explain to the child that the next time, before entering the bedroom, let him knock. If you want to lower the risk of something that he does not see something, put a lock on the door or a latch, and if you sleep in one room, then put the screen, this will reduce the likelihood of unpleasant situations.
But even if you are afraid that the child will see you, do not abandon the cutoff, just be careful - do it in the shower when the grandmother's child or walks in the yard.