How to raise a real man

Of course, every girl dreams of meeting her "real man". True, each puts something in its own words, because each of us has his own concept of "the present." But these ideal men do not fall from the sky, they are made by someone like that. And this one is his parents. So how can you raise a "real man" from a boy? Let's understand. When you first pick up your little crumbs, your first desire is to protect it, protect it from troubles and problems, do not let go of yourself for a second. After all, the world around is so big and dangerous, and your child is so small, unthinking and defenseless. Indeed, in the first year of a child's life, and especially in the first months, your baby depends entirely on you, he can not do anything on his own. But time goes by, and with him there are changes with your child: it grows, acquires new skills and abilities. He has already learned how to keep the head itself, but for the first time he sat down and crawled, the first tooth had already come out, the baby is taking his first step and you understand that your baby is not as independent as he was just a few months ago. He begins to manifest his own character, he has his own opinions and desires, which may differ from yours.

No total control
Some believe that "mama's sons" grow out of those boys who were loved too much in childhood. It is not true. Love can not be spoiled by a person, only vice versa. But still it is not necessary to surround the child with a hyperopeak and hang over it like a hen on the chickens, controlling each step. Sometimes it is worthwhile to leave the child for a while alone, because even this kid needs his own space and time for independent study and knowledge of the world around him.

Father and son
Psychologists conducted research in Russian kindergartens and found out that the most difficult and unpleasant question for preschool children is: "Do you love your mother or father more?" A woman usually very quickly gets used to the fact that her little son is always with her, because she spends alone with the baby 23 hours out of 24 possible. And Papa plays a secondary role and is as if on a pick-up: playing with the baby while you are busy cooking, changing his diaper, go for a walk with the stroller, so you can spare a little bit of your time. And it is not surprising that when a child grows up a bit, you begin to feel an inexplicable feeling of jealousy of the son to his father, when the child with greater pleasure begins to play with the daddy or when they fool around and play "shchekokalka" and the kid selflessly laughs and hugs the dad. If you want the son not to become a "mother's son", but grew up to be a real man, then you should not interfere with them. They must have a time when they can be alone together, without you: go somewhere to walk, to the river or fishing, go to the forest for mushrooms or to the park to feed the ducks, to engage in some purely masculine affairs. So that the son could safely share with his father some of his little secrets, not devoting it to you. So that the father could tell the child cognitive stories from his life, on which the son could learn and understand what is good and what is bad. Tell me in what situations it is worth fighting, and where you need to remain silent and pass by or how to make your favorite girl want to be friends with him, the father should tell exactly. Thus, a trusting relationship is established between the father and the son.

Relationship in the family
Young children absorb all information like a sponge. They have not yet formed their attitude to the world around them and therefore they imitate the behavior of adults, in particular their parents. It is not necessary once again to arrange with the wife of the scene and find out the relationship - in fact the child sees everything, and such negative impressions strongly influence his state and psyche. If the child sees how the parents care about each other, are treated with understanding and love, then this is the kind of behavior the kid will continue to take for the norm.

Men do not cry
They cry, and yet, especially if it's a little boy. It's just a way to express your condition and emotions. And if from the childhood to drive in a head to the kid, that only girls can cry, it lays hardiness and contempt for tears in the character of the future man. And then we women, ourselves and wonder why this is our young man falls into a stupor or worse, begins to get angry and annoyed when we cry. Everything comes from childhood and wrong attitudes.

Praise the kid
Unfortunately, we also have another template - that the boy needs to be educated necessarily in rigor, and the less he is praised and discouraged, the better. And then we cry that our men are emotionally cold. Do not be afraid to encourage the baby for various good deeds. And if you accidentally broke on the child - hit or shouted, because everything happens - then you should ask the kid for forgiveness and explain to him why you behaved exactly like that (tired, did not think). After all, the ability to regret and empathize will not make your boy less courageous, but will only go to his advantage.

Strap - not always the right way out
Supporters and opponents of "giving a belt" to a growing boy, it seems, will never find a common language. And yet, do not rush at the first case spank the baby. If the boy begins to behave badly, try to delineate the clear boundaries of what is permitted, after going beyond which, punitive measures can be applied. But all this needs to be explained to the child, that if he does the same again next time, he will be punished. The child must be informed, why he is punished and why. And yet it is better to try to do without the use of physical strength. After all, aggression can only breed aggression. And this is how, in the majority, the tyrants are born.

If you raise a son, then you had a unique opportunity - to give the world a worthy person. And then one day some girl will say to you: "Thank you, your son is a real man!".