It is sometimes very difficult for children to follow, especially for small children, let's look at the recommendations and tips that will help you in your family circle to teach children skills and basic rules for safe behavior.
What does it mean to teach? This means to teach the kids a certain way of life. Each child should be developed a protective mechanism, which will necessarily work at the most appropriate moment. So you can protect your child and protect him from the many situations in which children often turn out.
Read the literature, which is dedicated specifically to the safety of kids. Many rules of conduct are known to all parents, but accidents still happen, so find out what professionals think about this, for example, police officers, psychologists and teachers.
Take into account the characteristics of your child and his age. After all, when your child is just beginning and you are still driving him in a stroller, no rules can teach him. His life depends entirely on you, your parents, and also on your grandparents.
Remember that if you have a small child, then it should not be just under your supervision - constantly stay near him.
But as soon as the crumb turns three or four years old, he must understand what is "good" and what is "bad"; be able to call all parts of your body, by the way, intimate too, ask your mother for permission, can you take a candy from the one who offered no; To estimate or appreciate unfamiliar people. Moreover, each child at such age and especially children of the senior years should know a full name, a surname, phone, the address and as call parents.
It is very important that the child trusts you, and in everything for all. Do this, because only his sincere stories, and sometimes even the cries of the soul, clarify a lot, and thanks to this you can understand how the little guy is oriented in different situations and whether he is oriented at all, whether he can fight back and stand up for himself. It is for these reasons that you should never push your child if he wants to tell you something and what to do, even if you are very busy. Even a small child who still can not properly formulate his thoughts should be heard.
If the kid is trying to tell his mother or father something, then to answer him with indifference is an unforgivable mistake, after all, this can turn into disastrous consequences for both parents and the child. On the contrary, try to always talk to a crumb, call him to a conversation. With such conversations, remember how you were in your childhood and talk about it to your child. As a rule, children like it and they are very interested in listening to it, because then they begin to understand that Mom was once just as small and moreover, she also got into "terrible" stories.
If you learned that in some unusual situation the baby did the right thing, then do not miss the moment to praise him. This is very important, because in the following situations he will be more confident in himself. But if the child did something wrong, do not shout at all, do not scold, but calmly explain what he did wrong and what the consequences could be.
Only with constant contact with the child you can know how important your care is, how much you can rely on and provide him with "freedom" (allow you to go to your girlfriend, send him to the store, leave him at home, etc.)
However, it is important to take into account another nuance: if a kid distrusts parents, does not have contact with them, he seeks understanding among other strangers and not at home, but in other places. Perpetrators very often use this, pretending to be "good" uncles.
Do not bully children! Remember that they do not need to know all the criminal information. Experts have long talked about the fact that if parents try to protect children, telling all sorts of "horror stories", then this can lead to a completely opposite result. After all, children in difficult situations become more vulnerable, because fears paralyze them and, by the very least, discourage the desire to do something or somehow act.
Fear destroys the intuition of the baby and makes it act instinctively. Therefore, if children need to report any situation, only so that it does not hurt a small soul, especially if the crumb is vulnerable and very imaginative.
Your goal is to tell and inspire the kid, what he is capable of, and to explain that if he does the right thing, he will never get into a dangerous situation, and even if that happens, then the child will necessarily get out and find a way out.
Do it regularly with your child. Teach his safe behavior - it's not a day or even a year's work. Moreover, never raise your voice, do not shout, do not hit, and especially do not threaten the baby, otherwise he will beware of other people's uncles on the street, and you.
Gradually practice each skill of safe behavior. Try to check whether the child remembered his actions, learned the lesson. Ask him what he does not understand. Remember that compliance with safety rules should be automatic and permanent, and not by listening to the case. Only in this way will you be able to protect the crumbs.
Teach your child in many ways. With babies playing with dolls (doll wants to take away another's uncle on the car, the doll is lost, etc.) If they are older children, then play the scenes (on the street, at home), talk about other children who acted correctly in such situations, ask: "And what will you do in such a situation ...", mention your stories, memories.
Set an example for your children. Everything that you tell, can be forgotten by the kid, if you do not stick to the rules of safe behavior. If you do not look in the peephole, when someone knocks in the door, then surely your child will not do it either.
Do not leave other people's children in trouble. If suddenly you saw a dangerous situation in which there was someone else's kid (they try to force him away somewhere, he was lost, he is put in a car, etc.), show your participation. If you can intervene physically, then act! If you are married, then be sure to remember the number of the car, the brand and the color, where they were directed, signs of criminals, report this situation to the police.
Perhaps today you showed sympathy and helped a stranger, and tomorrow someone will help your child and save him.
It is very important to take into account the various situations in which it is necessary to ensure safety.
Your relationship with the kids
Remember the most important rule-talk with your child as often as possible, decide to take pictures of even the most trivial problems. So the kid will be sure that you will help and support him in any situation, he will not be afraid to tell you even the most "terrible" things.
When we observe how the crumb plays, then we look at ourselves. This means that we ourselves must be very careful and cautious, because we know that any action the little one can repeat, and very accurately. Therefore, if you yourself begin to panic in any situation, then the foal can not take itself in hand. The second rule: If you want the kid to adhere to the safety rules, first of all follow them yourself.
For your children, your example is very important - this is the best way to behave. If you constantly care for your safety, then the child will do the same. Any thief or maniac very accurately and attentively selects a victim, watching people for a long time, and if you accustom your child to attention, then the risk that he will be robbed or he will fall into the "hands" of kmaniac will decrease by 50%.