First, before you can be a parasite ordinary, like a species. This is an option missing, for which it is not worthwhile to take (again, if this guy is not related to you). Where do they come from? The question is interesting. Answer: Science still does not know how this works, but it is known what should be done in this case. Run away from him away. Such a person, as a rule, is simply not doing anything. He does not work, he did not work and is not going to deal with this unpromising, from his point of view, business. He does not seek excuses for himself and does not try to change anything. To him and so it is good. On the couch. Usually such parasites still contain someone, they need something to eat ... Either Mummy or someone else. But there are cases when the reluctance to work comes from a variety of reasons. Sometimes he is afraid of being unrecognized, that is, unclaimed. So like "I do not need anyone. I do not want to work, "and at work they can offend.
Work is such a thing, where you can climb and fall. An insecure person, it is very difficult to look for a job, because he first of all sees a "fall". And subconsciously does not want to go there. Here the most important support in this case your boyfriend can still help. It depends on those who are around. If you feel that there is a place to be not just an unwillingness to work, but also a lack of self-confidence, you need to be well-equipped with patience. Day after day convince him that he is the best and capable of much, find vacancies and kicks, send him for an interview after a preliminary psychological treatment. Just pick up for the first time something where you can confidently say that it will be taken. And then he will be scared and will not go any more.
And then write was gone. And if the guy does not want to work, not because of low self-esteem, but, on the contrary, because of the extremely high? Like, I'm a genius, just yet unrecognized, but now I'll get a job that you never dreamed and you will understand then! Relax. Here the same situation. No megalomania. He's just a chatterbox. There is also such a category. For him, work is something abstract. The guy does not want to work. He just wants to get everything right away. If you think of yourself as his mother and think that your unearthly love is worth such sacrifices, then - the flag is in your hands. But, remember: this dancer will always have something to interfere with. He believes that any work he does not deserve, this guy does not like to work, and there's nothing to be done. You can, again, be patient with the years ahead and pull it to yourself, setting high goals and objectives for it. The main thing is to find an individual approach to such a person. After all, the entire male sex is very vain and this can be played. But do not overdo it with goodness, because you are alone. What should I do? .. What should I do? ..
Such an adult already, but does not want to work. Adult. By the look. And his mustache grew and his shoulders waved, but his mind did not increase. So, dear parents, you yourself are to blame, although it's not good to say that. Egoism is also one of the reasons for not working. And egoism, as you know, comes from childhood. Clever people have already proven this. Loveful parents from the very diapers put the baby in the mouth all that only this child would want, and then wonder where in their hardworking family appeared lazy. The adult guy basically does not want to work. Here already high ideals will not save. You just need to grab the parasite for the scruff of the neck and put it on a prepared warm place and in-the-guy works! The only question is: will such a job benefit or only disappointment to management. Another reason for the "unemployment" of a young person may be depression. This is when something happens in life that is not too good and the whole world is painted gray. In this state, not what to work-you do not want to live. So the guy does not want anything. No work, no entertainment, no even tasty food. Not before eating, when the soul hurts, you see!
If you have such a depressive specimen on your life path and you have inflamed to it with tender feelings, you can advise you to study it in more detail. So, what we have for the moment: The guy does not want anything. And he does not want to work either. He is all so fragile, vulnerable and hurt in the whole world. Here the main strategy is caution. Perhaps, irony in this case is inappropriate and a person in life really has a great grief. But life goes on and you need to breathe life into this person. Love, tenderness and calmness are the best medicine. He will go away and after a while will go to work, because he understands that you deserve a prosperous life.
This we are talking about a real man, who, although it drops the proper man's tidbits, is tearful, but still able to take himself in hand after a nite amount of time. But it can also happen that your boyfriend will be depressed all. Hike in the housing office and a polyclinic, underweight products in the store, and suddenly someone on the foot will come .... And a protracted depression begins with interruptions to phrases, the essence of which boils down to how cruel this world is. Of course, you can not work in such a cruel world!
Your first task is to recognize such a parasite, the second - to not succumb to his charms and not to buy into the "vulnerability" of the soul. She has a soul at all. Even with Uncle Vasya's plumbing. But hard work, unfortunately, not all suffer. Well, and the third your problem for the decision - and it is necessary for you ??? The guy does not want to work. Of course, the problem. Especially if you love him. Just think about what you actually love? Appearance? Beautiful speech? Style? But after all diligence is also one of the qualities for which one can love. And even more so, it refers to those human qualities, without which we can not live.