But if you approach the situation from a different perspective, you can not know everything and nobody gave you the right to tear down strangers' attitudes. Perhaps, the girlfriend already guessed about treason for a long time, but is silent. How to be, if all the same the girlfriend at all does not suspect that its or her choice "goes to the left"? On the one hand, if you do not tell anything and just pretend that nothing has happened, a friend can find out about your awareness of treason and then the friendship is exactly the end. And on the other hand, if you still have the courage and decide to lay out to her everything you know or have seen, she may fall at you and almost blame all mortal sins. But even if this happened, do not strictly judge your beloved friend, and even more offended by her, because if we each give this news, the reaction is unlikely to be positive.
Specialists who have studied psychology and various types of relationships for many years, are advised to tell a friend after all if you have seen or learned something, but this is only on condition that the information is true and truthful and that everyone has seen or heard personally. If you share gossips and gossip, you can vainly destroy a family or a couple. Therefore, you need to rely only on the truthful facts that you have witnessed in person. And when you disclose the secret, which was recently learned, be ready for hysteria and various inhuman manifestations - betrayal and betrayal rarely pleases.
Before you tell everything as it is, you need to consider something.
- To begin with, you must set up a friend for a not very good message, try to warn her that it will be painful and unpleasant. Prepare it.
- Tell a friend that she is dear to you and you value your relationship very much, it is very difficult for you to tell the truth, but you do it only because you want the best for her.
- Then it is worth starting to approach the matter. Ask her how her boyfriend's affairs are, whether they have met for a long time and whether they communicate at all. Perhaps she already knows about the treason and they have long been separated. In order not to look stupid, it is better to foresee everything.
- If she does not suspect anything and uni is all right, tell everything you know, but you should not injure her with your tone or attitude. You need to speak calmly and confidently.
- After you've told the whole truth, the girlfriend must be reassured, it's best to go with her to the cafe (but do not let her go to the liquor, otherwise it will end badly), but better the movie. Try to distract her, and if she does not want to leave the house it's better not to leave your girlfriend alone. Stay, watch a movie or just talk the whole night.
It is very important in the next days to be a squad. Thus, you support a person, because you can not always share with someone else's news about the betrayal of a loved one. In addition, when you are near a difficult moment, your relationship will be strengthened even more and you will become the best friends. Support the girlfriend with various trips to the store, do not let her remember the past, it will also be nice if you get to know her with your acquaintance, for example, maybe she will switch her attention to another guy and she's easier. Remember that we are all human beings, and in such a situation, each of us can be one. Love each other and value your friends.