Involuntarily every third daughter-in-law starts to think that something is wrong with her, since she is so coldly received, criticizes every act and strives to teach how to do the right thing and how to take care of her beloved son. The mother-in-law can give advice on saving the family budget, talk about which curtains are better, indicate what kind of wallpaper to choose for repairs and so on. The first and main mistake is the unfolding of a war or a constant saying to a guy or husband that his beloved "mamul" is not right. Stop, agree with what the father-in-law says to the mother-in-law, and ... act in your own way!
Still, you have to understand the reasons for this relationship, especially since there are often two of them.
One and only
A fairly common reason for not loving a daughter-in-law is jealousy. Especially often it happens if your loved one is one in the family. He does not have brothers and sisters, and therefore all the attention of the parents is literally concentrated on the life of the son. So, do you cook it? Do you know how to iron your trousers correctly? Do you often change bed linens? Naturally, you are doing everything wrong. And she needs to teach you how to care for a single son.
How to deal with the jealousy of my mother-in-law?
For starters, pity her. Of course, you are offended that you have to listen to constant discontent, but put yourself in her place, and you will understand everything. In order to demonstrate to the mother of her husband that you are no worse prepared, act slyly. Frankly and calmly talk with your beloved and explain that you respect his mother, but I would like to cook as you like. And ask him to praise the dishes of his mother, but at the same time indicate that you could add something (according to your recipe). You'll see, my mother-in-law will listen to her son, because the initiative comes from him.
The same is true for other issues, be it repair, travel abroad. Let your husband always be the initiator of any changes in your life. Or at least do so that his parents think he pampers you, sending to the south, making repairs, etc. And praise your loved one with his mother: she will appreciate it and get to you.
The "Ghost" of his former
This is a much more annoying and unpleasant reason, but if you love him, you will have to fight with the shadow of your ex-wife or bride. If your mother-in-law constantly says that you are not cooking like you imagine Mashenka, do not have time to get out, constantly stay at work, and so on, try to find out how his ex was able to keep the house clean.
Perhaps, she did not work, or all the night she washed, ironed and washed floors or something else. Have you found out? And now try to turn your "shortcomings" into obvious advantages. For example, tell your husband's parents that you are irreplaceable at work, your career is well advanced and you earn a lot of money to make repairs in your family nest or in your mother-in-law's dacha.
If his ex was pure and chaste, chaste and modest, and you are a bright girl, you prefer to wear dresses with a deep neckline and like to always look spectacular, you will have to show your beloved parents that he is the one whom you have been looking for all your life. Constantly say that you love and appreciate it, thank your mother-in-law for raising this son. For family dinners and dinners, come first time in more modest outfits.
Remember that her husband's parents really want him a happy family life. With them you need to be friends, not war. Appreciate, respect and try to love almost like your parents. They and her husband will be very pleased!