Now, women can not simply go to work as men, they can occupy key positions, manage entire industries or enterprises. Yes, and no one is surprised by the woman president of the country.
Parity relations between the sexes bring people both great happiness and great evil. Today we will consider options for building parity relationships that are more and less destructive to the human soul and interaction with the world. After all, like any business, equality of the sexes is good, when it is approached with intelligence, thoughtfully and carefully, and not with perseverance and perseverance of ardent fans.
Equity at Work
Relations between men and women can develop in different ways in the family and in the work collective. And the principles of behavior that leads to success are different. If to formulate briefly, then in order to achieve equality at work, it is necessary to be cunning, manipulate and show rigidity. Equality in the family is achieved in other ways - here one must be able to compromise and share the responsibility of husband and wife.
Studying the features of a successful career, psychologists came to stunning conclusions when they tried to find an answer to the question, what is the parity relationship between men and women in business. It turned out that men are struggling with the female success in the business, and are ready for the most dishonorable and unprincipled moves, just to not let the woman go for promotion. They steal ideas and give them away for their own, they severely interrupt women in negotiations, they reduce it to the role of a beautiful female, telling her scrupulous compliments on the board of directors. In general, the list of techniques that reduce the image of a woman to the role of office services, for men is extensive. A particular difficulty is that men often do not realize this. They can declare that they are happy to support the idea of equality between a man and a woman, but these are all words. As soon as it comes down to the case, their humanism and progressiveness somewhere disappears, and they begin to enter with unequal grip women.
Psychologists advise the ladies to learn to hold a blow. Do not agree to wear coffee to negotiators, not to publicly discuss ideas for men entirely, to learn to work with aggressive objections and attempts to kill. By and large, a woman needs to learn a little male behavior in order to succeed in business and feel there with a man on an equal footing.
Equity at home
If you have perfectly mastered the skills of behavior in business, which allow you to achieve equal positions in deed, not in words, it is fine. Just forget about them once and for all. In order to do this, let's consider what a parity relationship between a man and a woman is within a family.
Powerful intonation, the ability to get a man to make himself a coffee in the family is not very appropriate. The parity relationship here is the ability to agree on who is in what topic and the ability to change roles for a short time in leadership in their territory. Let's say a husband leads in matters of earnings, and his wife surpasses him in matters of money distribution. The husband makes the basic decisions on the purchase of technical novelties: cars, computers, household appliances. The wife leads the way in choosing food and clothing. The husband dominates in matters of fixing and altering something broken, and the wife is the boss in the harvesting matters. If suddenly one of the spouses needs to report urgently or fly off on a business trip, the second temporarily takes care of the housework for himself. If there is a trouble and the husband lost the opportunity to earn money, the wife picks up the initiative and for a while, while he is looking for a new job, contains a family. A husband can replace her at home if she has a time trouble or business trip. At the same time, no one else commands or attempts to make vital decisions for another.
Equality of spouses does not mean that a woman should grab a hammer at any possible event, and her husband - to stand for hours at the stove in an attempt to cook dinner. It means only voluntary acceptance of some of the responsibilities, not only "purely feminine" or "purely masculine", but also the duties of the other sex. This acceptance of duties should be openly discussed in the family so that there is no discomfort in the relationship.
The consequences of equal communication between men and women
The consequences of equality between men and women are different. In countries where women have achieved the greatest opportunities for parity, the birth rate has decreased and the number of divorces has increased, the number of people living in conscious solitude has increased, and there has been a break in the ties between members of the same gender. Perhaps, in part this is due to the fact that equality at work requires a change in the family's model of the home. And these changes happen slowly. Another reason may be that not all people are able to differently build parity relationships in the family and business.
There are also positive results of the woman's acquisition of a new status in society. Firstly, it was proved that the enterprises, in whose directors there are women, are easier to survive the troubled times. It is on the women-leaders and their ability to unite the team during difficult periods of the company's life that business keeps in crises and times of economic downturns. Secondly, in the European and American part of the world there have been improvements in the family relations of people. Family psychologists could prove that an egalitarian family, or a family where equality between spouses flourishes, is second in stability after the patriarchal family. Only a family in which a woman dominates is at risk and has an increased chance to disintegrate. A general increase in the culture of parity, which goes from decade to decade, helps both men and women to better understand how to build relationships in the family. And if a woman after success at work is only happy to be a toy in her husband's hands, then this is really a good chance for her to achieve harmony in her personal and social life.