And how hard it sometimes happens to admit that a person to whom you trusted all your secrets, who for several years already knew about you more than any other living soul in this world has become a burden. There are a lot of reasons for this to happen. Friends are always connected with common interests, mutual understanding, trust and a feeling of full trust to each other. However, changes in the life of one of you can sometimes produce the most undesirable consequences. The plot is known to the pain and repeated more than once in life, but also in works of literature and cinema.
Girlfriends were happy and lived, as they say, soul in the soul, and then one of them finds a young man, and the whole situation is changing. They no longer spend the same amount of time together, the confidence of the relationship decreases, because one of them has something that the other does not. Or worse, when the girlfriend begins to be jealous of the young man, sometimes purposely "embellishing" his essence, trying to regain the old days, when she was the center of attention. Most people cope with this problem in a completely natural way, because this is inevitable and occurs very often. The frank conversation that the place of a friend in your heart has remained her place, and the young man is a completely different sphere of feelings and relationships, as a rule, suffices. It's just so closed from the person with whom you were friends for a certain amount of time and shared all your experiences with him, it's ugly and not friendly. Yes, and something happens in your personal life, where most of us will complain? Find time to talk with her, explain the whole situation, and if you do everything right, you will stay with both your girlfriend and your beloved person, having harmoniously arranged your life.
Sometimes there are other situations when it is interesting for girlfriends to communicate retelling each other's troubles, discussing the exits from difficult situations, seeking support from each other. And again, as soon as one of them has a life beginning to improve, the other starts to feel superfluous and unnecessary. In this situation, several options are possible. One of them is that your girlfriend subconsciously chose for herself the role of "adviser" and "waistcoat" in life, and can not live without a person who needs it all the time. Very often people of this kind are not organized in their personal lives and for them the need to feel themselves in demand in the emotional sphere is important. And while you are all bad, they will be with you, experiencing for you with all sincerity and helping your participation in your destiny.
And when you become stronger, and your state improves, you will not need the formerly habitual talk about the unhappy part. In this situation, it is not worth hurrying to break off relations with a friend, because, no matter what, this person was your support and once helped, and it is not good to pay ingratitude for such things. Try to bring something good into your girlfriend's life, show that there are not only dark sides on the earth. Let her try to feel happy too. Having saved such a friend, supporting her in a difficult period for her, you will only gain in the future. It happens, and another, when a friend not only empathizes with you, and hearing about your difficulties and troubles, gets inner satisfaction from the realization of one's own superiority. This also happens, and you should not endure in such cases, unless you agree all your life to be a subject for someone's self-affirmation. It is quite typical that when you come out of temporary difficulties, such a person will lose interest to you and everything will be resolved by itself.
However, not everything is always so tragic. In most cases, the crisis in the relationship is temporary and it happens to all people, regardless of age and status. Friendship is a very intimate area of ​​relations, friends always remain a support and an outlet, sometimes occupying much more space in our hearts than relatives. We can trust them all, without fear of being betrayed or ridiculed, their decisions often helped us get out of difficult life situations. It is very important to be able to appreciate them with dignity, and not be scattered by sincere human relationships because of a temporary crisis. And if you feel that your friend is bored with you, but she is still the same person you trusted with your secrets and who helped you a thousand times in a difficult situation, then just try to understand first what is going on. Perhaps, you are just a little tired of each other and it's worth to go to a time for a while to rest and gain other emotions. Communication requires a lot of emotional forces and it is clear that one of you can feel tired, do not be afraid to tell her about it.
What if my friend became a burden to you? Never hurry with conclusions and do not make harsh decisions about a person who is important to you, because words and deeds can not be returned back, and losing a good friend is much easier than finding a new one.