Those who very much love life in all its manifestations, never lower their hands and head, bravely overcoming life's barriers, do not understand those who do not want to live, who are currently for some reason in despair, in a state of depression. How to help yourself or others in a situation where you do not want to live, and the present does not seem so rosy, beautiful, as it was before?
Why is this happening?
To find yourself in a situation where you do not want to live, you can for various reasons. The hardest of them is death or a fatal illness of someone close. Another cause is extreme health problems and various physical conditions. The third is parting with your loved one, betrayal, deceit of close ones, friends. Fourth - material problems, difficulties at work. The fifth is a deep disappointment in something or in someone. Causes can be in fact a great many, but these are the main ones.
Depressive state can also lead to a reluctance to live. But the depression was initially provoked by some problem or situation from the above.
So how to cope with such a mood? Especially when the situation is irreversible, as in the case of the death of a near person.
When people leave their life
What can you do if your state of deep dejection is caused by the death of a loved one with whom you can not accept a vykik. We will not talk here about the fact that you need to survive this difficult period of life, try to forget, push back heavy thoughts as much deeper into the subconscious.
The problem with such actions is not disappear. But with certainty it can be said that in this case the main life theory of King Solomon will work. "Everything passes. And this too! "Will pass the time, someone has a month, someone has a year and more and the pain is dull, will become nestol sharp, obvious, like now.
In difficult moments of life, stay away from people, strive for mutual trusting with them.
If such people are not in your environment - visit a psychologist or spiritual minister of your faith. These people are called to help from the perspective of the profession to those who have a difficult life situation.
It helps to change the situation, switch your thoughts to other people's problems. And remember, your current development is a consequence of the incident in your life. But you are not the first and far from the last person on earth to experience this. Today, a heavy share has fallen out of your lot, another time, another unfamiliar people will experience an equally difficult event. Suffer, soon the pain will become quieter, decrease to technical dimensions, when you can reconcile with it and experience it.
Life after parting with your loved ones
Treason, quarrel, misunderstanding and as a consequence - separation from a loved one can bring some to the state of "living do not want." Psychologists recommend a number of means how to get out of this state.
The first thing you can do if you understand that a certain person needs to be somehow struck out of his life and from his memory is to change his place of residence. Or you can leave for a month longer to relatives in another city or village. That is, your task is not only to change the situation, but also to minimize the possibility of meeting with the person who inflicted your offense.
Destroy all the attributes in the house, in your environment, that remind you of it - your joint photos, disk records, eliminate it from your friends in social networks and so on.
Remember, in your case a big one can play in the restoration of mental equilibrium friends, girlfriends, parents, other close people. Do not refuse to help and communicate with them.
Psychotherapists consider
Psychologists believe that people who want to settle scores in life deceive themselves. Their departure from life will not solve the problems. And that the case does not reach depression and suicide follows the very first stage, when the problem has only become apparent, carefully consider what you are thinking about not to launch a "snowball" of dangerous thoughts.
Psychotherapists are sure, justonly your close person or you have thoughts about leaving, it is necessary to act urgently in a certain way. You can not cope with it independently - seek advice from a psychologist, a psychotherapist.
What should I do if I do not want to live your loved ones?
So, your close friend gives you to understand that he does not have the strength to live, he does not want to continue to exist. What can you do, and what should not be allowed in this case?
Step 1. Listen carefully to your interlocutor. Do not interrupt him. Do not show extreme emotional statements. Do not judge him. Let the man speak out until the end.
Action 2. Try to understand whether a person is actually going to commit suicide or are they only threats, manipulation of suicide?
Step 3. If you feel that your support, which should be provided with all your strength, the situation you are facing is not enough, you can not cope with it - invite a close person to visit a psychotherapist together.
Action 4. Rather, what should be inaction on your part. It should not be in this situation to advise a person to "drink," "relax," "forget," "go for a walk." It is unlikely that these methods will help a person in extreme desperation to cope with unwillingness to live.
Tips psychologist, if you do not want to live
You were fired from work, you overcame problems with your children, your husband, you have a very close person, a lot of debts accumulated, you can not repay loans and other difficult situations. The way out is this. Look from the side on playing in the sandbox or kindergarten children. They have a special way of life, which it would be nice to adopt to people who are depressed.
Children every second experiencing happy moments or sad in full. But how much they rejoice or experience, so quickly forget about this situation. One can say sovereignty - children love life and live every moment of it with all the cells of their body.
Why should not adults adopt the child's living habits of each day for at least a difficult period?
You have depression for the reason, as it seems to you, of your unnecessary community, your environment, because of loneliness. And meanwhile many lonely lyudinauchilis completely cope with their loneliness and uselessness, having got a pet. In the care of him they feel their need for this living being. A cat or dog, in turn, gives their owners a lot of positive emotions, pleasant evenings, deprived of solitude.
And more it is necessary to remember that when one stage in a person's life is completed, another begins always, in which fateful meetings, meetings, vital turns are prepared for you.
It happens that the unwillingness to live is caused by the business that you are doing now and that does not bring you moral satisfaction for a long time already. Not work, so the way of life that you have created for yourself, has stopped you from arranging. You are bored so live, you do not see the gap. But the problem is solved easily. Yes, it may be necessary to part with a stable earnings in unloved work, with the usual way of life, which has led you to the unwillingness to live. But you will become engaged in something that really interests you, even if it is the simplest thing in the world, but you like it very much. Do not be shy about doing something that is the meaning and the main vocation in your life.