We all feel and understand that a relationship with a married man will not lead us to anything. Such a form is not approved by religion, morality, or women who have already passed through this. But, despite all the warnings, the relationship with the married man exists and is really very common. More and more women are striving for such kinds of relationships, they become victims of male manipulators, fall into psychological dependence on a married man and break their lives. The article "How to part with a married man: advice of a psychologist" will help you to break these unbearable bonds, which bound you man-family man.
Why then do they make such a choice? Why and for whom do these relations exist, what do they entail and what is their main danger? Most of us understand the seriousness of this issue, but not all women are able to step over themselves. How to part with a married man? There are several psychological advice that will help you understand this case.
First, let's look at the reasons for this situation. Why do men do this? First, a person may be unhappy in a marriage, have major problems and conflicts with his family and wife, including. In this case, a man seeks solace on the side, additional connections that satisfy his needs, will help him cope with stress. And if associations with his wife push only on life and routine, then the mistress is always a risk, a holiday, a forbidden fruit, the taste of which he really wants to try.
But not always a man can be missing something, or he can have serious quarrels and bad relations with his wife. By virtue of their nature, the representatives of the stronger sex are polygamous, so a man can get himself a mistress and novels on the side even in the case when he loves his wife, and in the family he has no problems. He needs marital relations and satisfies him, but at the same time he is attracted to sexual diversity.
In both cases, a man acts as a manipulator, a man who uses a mistress for his own purposes, whether it is sexual interest, craving for the unknown, or satisfaction of the missing warmth and affection that he should have gotten into marriage. This is also one of the main reasons why a woman should part with a married man. No one wants to be a victim of manipulation, but most do not realize that they are being used for their own purposes.
Why then women are bought for such a relationship? They are not always negative. The positive effect of this relationship can only give if a woman uses a man, in order to gain an internal (or material) balance. There is also such a case when a woman was not lucky with men, and they sooner or later threw her, breaking off relations. In this case, she found herself a stable married man, which she did not claim, but at his own expense she was able to increase her self-esteem, to learn to appreciate herself. But in this case, you need to put yourself and your demands first, and even act in the role of a manipulator, which is not very approved. Even if you need moral and psychological support, it is best to seek it out among friends or free men with whom you can later develop relationships.
Another reason why a woman goes to such a relationship may be that it is difficult for her to find a man for marriage. And due to relationships with married men, she meets her needs for communication and love, reduces her loneliness.
Secondly, women can choose non-binding relationships, because at a subconscious level they feel that they are not ready for a serious relationship, and are also unable to build their own family. Some are afraid to take responsibility for another person, besides, this trait is peculiar not only to women, but also to a multitude of men.
There are also cases when a woman is drawn to married men, and repeatedly seeking them, she loses interest in them. Thus, we see that in such relations it is attracted by the process itself, and not the result. It attracts the game itself, the very goal "to achieve its object", and when it does, it finds a new goal. Here there is a principle of the forbidden fruit: we wish what is inaccessible to us, but having received, we lose interest to it. At the heart of such erroneous relationships can be a similar experience of relations with parents, a dysfunctional family whose relationship has not taken place.
But it also happens that you really can fall in love with a married man, childishly and naively trust in him, believe that he will leave his wife for you ... In that case, you will sooner or later put him an ultimatum: either I, or the wife. In most (most of the cases) a man chooses his wife, in addition, he can still fool you for a long time. If he still chooses you, think, are you ready to destroy another's union? Remember the old saying: you can not build happiness on someone else's misfortune. Yes, and the guarantee that if a man once threw his beloved wife, but does not do it with you, no.
How can you then part with a married man, decide on this? The advice of a psychologist will say only one thing: it's all about psychological dependence. It's not difficult to build your world around one person ... Create alleys and parks around it, rainbows and stars, beautiful buildings that lead only to this person. After all, the world that we build around a loved one is really beautiful ... But the fact that this union will not have continuation, and the beloved man belongs to another, makes the world fragile, and in the buildings around it there are many cracks.
Do not allow to manipulate you, use you for mercenary purposes. In order to part with a married man, you need to get rid of psychological dependence and find the strength to say no to the manipulator, and your own whims. From this decision depends on your future destiny. This is the step when you should get out on the right path, however sweet the other might seem. After all, as a result of the right choice for you, the opportunity opens up to find the person you really need, to open yourself to new opportunities and family.