You have a good job and a lot of friends. You are attractive and sexy. In a word you are successful in everything. What can you miss in your life? Love? Why is there not the only one with whom you would like to live life? How and where to find your soul mate?
Let's try to figure out what the problem is. And there can be several reasons for this situation.
1. Your friends accompany you everywhere.
You feel uncomfortable in unfamiliar surroundings or too crowded places. Of course, it is much calmer when there are several close friends nearby. But then you should know that their presence dramatically reduces your chances of an interesting acquaintance. Yes, friends can be more attractive for a young man than you, but that's not the point. Not every guy will dare to get acquainted with a girl under someone's gaze. It is always unpleasant to be rejected in public, because he does not know in advance how your conversation will develop.
So the best solution for you is to go to the club without your girlfriends or try to spend more time outside of their society.
2. You are different in the choice of places for recreation.
Do you love this cafe around the corner, but in this club is always the best music? So you want to return to your favorite places, and of course you will go there in the company of your best friends. But you will not be able to meet new people, visiting again and again the same institutions.
If you want to expand the circle of communication, expand the range of your interests. Whether it is Latin American dances, origami or rock climbing, any new hobby will bring you a huge number of interesting acquaintances.
3. You are too strict with people.
You complain that you can not find a suitable guy, but there are no good guys left. Do you recognize yourself? If so, it is better for you to reconsider your attitude towards people. Many guys try so hard to impress that they overact and behave unnaturally, rudely or too impudently. Do not judge by first impression, give the young man a chance to prove himself.
Do not limit the place or method of dating, do not push yourself into strict limits. The place where you meet your destiny may be the most unexpected, and the time is the most inappropriate.
4. You show too much zeal.
The girl must be active. Yes, it's true, do not sit back and wait for your prince. But look at yourself through the eyes of a man. Are your desires and dreams too obvious to him? Do not you look desperate, a freak on a special marriage, trying to get it? Even if you are fascinated by him and at first sight realized that he is the only one, do not immediately lay out all the cards on the table.
You should take a deep breath, for a while to throw out of your head all the thoughts about your happy future together and just enjoy the communication.
But perhaps you are one of those for whom there is another serious difficulty on the way to your happiness. You see an attractive guy and would not mind getting to know him better. But how to make friends? How to start a conversation, how to interest him? The first phrases should be unusual enough to interest him, but at the same time unobtrusive and not binding you to continue the conversation, if you suddenly decide to retire. There are a few tried and tested techniques, and you can apply them without a twinge of conscience until you have developed your own.
So, from which side to approach the object.
1. Try to discuss with him the event in which you are present.
Is it an exhibition or festival of contemporary art? Express your opinion on the author's works. If you met at a concert, discuss the performance of the artists. You are with him in the same place, which means that you already have common interests and, accordingly, limitless topics for conversation.
Do not be scared if it turns out that he is more competent in the topic of your conversation. Ask questions, listen carefully, he will feel more confident and this, most likely, will immediately provide you with his location. And if it's about "male" themes, then you can slukavit, pretend dilettante and ask for advice.
2. Give him a compliment.
There is an opinion that men do not care about their appearance. In most cases this is not the case. Pay attention to the inscription on his T-shirt or fashion sneakers, for sure there is a piece of clothing that can be praised without a twinge of conscience. And really figuring out what is written on his shirt or where they sell such cool jeans, you can start a further acquaintance.
3. Or maybe you've met him somewhere?
Banal phrase, but, oddly enough, it works. Make a serious face, as if really trying to remember where you could see each other. You can even fantasize a little on this topic. Suppose, for example, that he turns out to be surprisingly similar to the boy with whom you went swimming in the fifth grade. You, of course, quickly find out that this is not him, but the beginning has already been laid and it will not be difficult to continue the conversation.
But even if you can not come up with any suitable phrase, you can get a simple "Hello!". And do not forget about the smile. A smiling person looks more attractive to others and causes more positive emotions.
Dary smiles around, who knows, maybe one of them will be your destiny. We hope that you understand and decided for yourself where to find your soul mate.