Friendship out of pity.
It sounds ridiculous, but it happens. It turns out that in the environment of your husband suddenly appeared a woman who is an example of a classic victim. Her husband left her, she alone brings up a child, or even two, she does not stick to her relationship with her colleagues, oppresses her superiors, rude neighbors, and she regularly steals purses with the last money in the subway. An unhappy woman who should be pitied.
But you see that her husband left her, because she has an extremely unpleasant character, colleagues do not like her for trying to sit down, the authorities do not perceive her, because she wants to shift her work to the shoulders of another person. And wallets? She just never learns from her own mistakes.
What does your husband see? In his eyes, this small, offended woman who tries to be brave and cheerful, no matter what. He finds reasons to respect in it what it does not by definition. As a result, she accepts his help and gets used to calling him at any time of the day to ask for advice or cry, she is a frequent guest in your house, and you must accept it, and if you are against, then the husband disappears in the evenings.
But this problem can be solved. Think about it, how much do you take on yourself? In the eyes of her husband, you look like a strong, self-sufficient person who has got used to dealing with all troubles. And in it the chivalrous impulses have not died out, he just needs someone to save. So give him that opportunity! Do not try to solve everything yourself, do not hesitate to complain about things that you did not pay attention to before. In general, give him what his "girlfriend" gives him. It turns out that your man is not so much a knight to pull the burden out of two needy women. Most likely, he prefers the one whose problems are closer to him and touch more, that is, you.
Friendship from memory.
Some old connections and dating wander with a man for a long time - from marriage to marriage, from year to year. It happens that among other things there is an old friend, who, it seems, is not a mistress, but just a friend, but she does not let your husband go for many years.
They are linked by memories, youth, children's fun and children's love, they have known each other for a long time and are used to trust each other. Cope with such a rival will not be easy.
If you could not neutralize her before the wedding, and then could not accept her, then act calmly and coolly. First, do not be afraid to talk about her with your husband, but not from the standpoint of the accuser. Do not make claims, but ask the right questions. For example, ask if a girlfriend is happy. To the astonished look, say that usually happy women prefer to spend time not with friends, but with loved ones. Do not be shy to open her eyes to some of her not very good qualities, for example, to molestation. Well, does she really not understand that in love you want to be alone in the weekend? And, most importantly, keep this relationship under control - do not let it out of your sight, but do not let it get too close. As a result, old attachments will give way to new ones, and your husband will forget about the pseudo rival. A. maybe, and she will someday arrange her personal life and stop bothering you.
Friendship on souls.
It's amazing how sometimes men are silent! But here comes into life a completely extraneous woman with whom your yesterday-even closed husband is ready to chat day and night. The thing is, she, unlike you, saw in him something that excites him. Let this be just a senseless talk about politics, football or computers.
Get rid of this girlfriend is quite simple. Listen to what topics they are talking about, understand the meaning and impress the faithful with the depth of understanding. Replace him with her, become his best companion for him. As soon as you show a sincere interest in what excites him, there will be no memories from an uninvited guest.
Friendship for contrast.
Maybe you noticed behind yourself that you are not too reserved in emotions, often you are irritated and do not hesitate to demonstrate it? Usually men do not like too much emotional women. So do not be surprised if your husband suddenly has a friend who is calm, like a tank in any situation.
Do not rush to make hysterics and suspect a loved one of treason. Change tactics. Become impenetrable and calm, do not rave where you are used to, learn to keep your emotions in your hands. And distract your husband with something - even though traveling together, even though a common child. You will see how quickly he will return, and how he will look at you.
When a man and a woman are friends, there is always room for speculation and suspicion. But this is often just an indicator of what problems have matured in your relationship with your husband. Try to change, and you will see that there was no real need to be friends with another woman. The main thing in such moments - do not make mistakes and do not tread on the same rake.