What's wrong with online dating?
It is guilty in the sad statistics of partings, oddly enough, it is a wide choice. When we manage to scan dozens or even hundreds of questionnaires in a day, this is very similar to the situation in a restaurant where, due to the diversity of the menu, a visitor simply can not decide what he really wants. It seems to us that if in the candidate for a date some trifle did not suit him, he should be sent to the "basket" with an easy stroke of the "click", to return to finding someone better.
The problem is that this search quickly becomes an obsession. We forget about the original goal - it is replaced by the process itself, which, taking into account the possibilities of the Internet and the population of the Earth, can last as long as you please.
Plus, by looking at as many questionnaires as possible, we become too critical and start to quibble candidly about the candidate. We do not want to put much effort into the relationship (there are so many of them spent searching!), We expect from the person that he will be just an ideal. Excessive expectations are present on the other hand, which only complicates the situation and turns into disappointment.
Is non-verbal contact more important than common views?
Another serious disadvantage of dating on the Internet is that we choose a future partner for very formal signs (reading the same books, watching the same films, loving cats), and also in appearance. But scientists have already proved that opposites are attracted - your most healthy and productive will be your union with a person whose immune system will be absolutely different from yours. In the picture, you may like it very much, but the sound of the voice or the smell (again, according to research results, very important factors) will irritate. Or, on the contrary, your ideal (in terms of physiological compatibility) partner you miss only because of an unsuccessful frame on the "avatar."
In this plan, of course, a real acquaintance has a much higher chance of an amorous continuation. After all, when we meet, we immediately unconsciously assess how much the potential partner is suitable for us genetically. If he interested us - then you can discuss your favorite books-movies-cats. If not - even a 100% "hit" in the interests will not help. Unless you make friends, which is also not bad.
And yet dating sites make sense!
We should not forget that when we get acquainted on the Internet, we are all engaged in mythmaking - we show off our best sides and we ignore the worst. Just yesterday you were sure that there was your soulmate on the other side of the monitor, but today you met and understood that you are absolutely strangers, who have nothing in common except the habit of hiding their true "I".
However, there are online dating and positive sides. Communication through the network helps not very self-confident people who without a computer could not have a chance at all on a romantic date. Dating through the Internet connect people who could never meet in real life. It is possible to say with full confidence that the Internet brings together kindred souls living in different cities and countries. But do not forget that the web remains only a technical tool, it does not solve your psychological problems, does not treat complexes, does not smooth out the contradictions in the relationship. Therefore, it is not worthwhile to pin great hopes on the fact that He is waiting exactly in the network. Sometimes, to find love, it is enough just to look around.