Now many things have changed, but the tradition of giving children upbringing grandparents in many families has survived, also from despair. At the minimum that the state pays to mothers, it is possible to buy diapers, but how to live if the spouse has a low-paid job? For one salary is unlikely to feed at least three people, and after all, someone has two and three children, if not more. That will put a dilemma to give the child to a garden or grandparents retired.
But this situation does not develop in everyone, there are families in which the husband is able to provide the whole family for the period of maternity leave. But in fact, some people even give up the reins of raising a child in grandmother's hands, from their own unwillingness to turn into an inveterate housewife-Dunka Kulakov-the mother of seven children. And there is also a third category - they raise their children themselves, not allowing grandparents to interfere in this creative process. Which option is most favorable for your baby, each mother is able to determine by herself, looking at the baby itself. So, let's analyze all the pros and cons of all three positions.
Immediately make a reservation, I'm closer to the option when parents raise their own children, but there are also exceptions. What do you think is the most important thing for child development while it is still small? Of course, his psychological calm and sense of security. Not newfangled developmental occupations, namely the inner world of a little man. All our problems and psychoses have their roots in childhood, it is a kind of foundation, how correctly and reliably we lay it, will depend the further life of our child. A loving mother and only she is able to give the child all the warmth and affection that he needs at this age. But there are also dysfunctional families who drink mothers and other categories that do not quite care about the inner world and the development of their child, that's it, if, of course, the grandmother is more or less sane, the baby will be better and more comfortable with the older one generation, than with failed parents.
When the family does not have enough money, the best option would be to wait for the child to become more or less independent (can walk on the pot, eat himself, can tell what he needs), and then with a calm conscience give it to a kindergarten. Of course, all the children develop differently, someone will have this period earlier, someone later, the average figure is somewhere 1.5-2 years.
As for the generally accepted opinion that a housewife woman dulls with time and becomes uninteresting to her husband, then this is nonsense. Dear women, understand, everything depends on you. If you were not shining with intelligence and ingenuity before marriage, start cultivating now, there are no ways to do it, well, if you had all the data of a creative and interesting nature, believe me, they will not get away from you anywhere.
Grandmothers, grandfathers are, of course, good, but still these are our children and do not charge their duties to them. They have already raised their children, they too, retired, want to catch their breath a little from the bustle of life, to live at least last years for themselves and for their own pleasure. Moreover, doctors have already proved that children living with the older generation are more prone to illness. With age, such qualities of character as caution turn into anxiety, frugality into stinginess, lack of self-interest - into seclusion, etc. This is the reason for increased attention, reminiscent of obsession, as a result of which the child develops slowly and understands some vital things. Eternal folding, so it was warmer, as a result the child sweats and chills, do not go there, do not do it, do not eat it, etc. to infinity.
Grandparents are much wiser than us, and they have more experience in life, so they think that only they know how to properly educate the younger generation, sometimes forgetting that times are not the same. Of course, we can not do without their advice, but, as they say, a good spoon is good for dinner!
Therefore, if your child spends most of his time with grandparents, try to find a compromise in your relationship so that you do not have to argue later on in the presence of the baby, whose upbringing is more important.