That is why they are more irritated when the latter destroys the stereotype of the "ideal child". The man, the father, looks at such "trifles" through his fingers. The right to raise a child by the father is also significant. He simply understands that:
a) it does not matter what kind of diaper is worn, the main thing is that they perform their functions well;
b) it is useless to disguise a child a little, he will get dirty, because in this period of life this can not be avoided.
The Pope is considering more "global" issues: for example, how to pass on his experience to the child, so that he becomes successful. He is well aware that he can not be perfect, and does not try to compete with other fathers in whose baby first sat down on the pot.
Dad's advice
Show independence of views and in the matter of relationships with the child. Do not try to adjust to the mother's style of communication. You need to know what to do with the baby when you are alone. And do not rush for help to his wife at the first squealing of the baby. Try to understand everything yourself. Call for help only if you feel that you yourself can not cope with the situation.
Dad is more often associated with the child with the game, and my mother - with the cases (you can not get dirty, you need to wash your hands). Help your wife in the difficult matter of the right to raise a child as a father and try to turn a part of the games into training ones: "we wash our face like pussies" or "on a walk we will build a sand castle, and all builders wear gloves, show how they put them on." Playing, everything is easier to master.
Curiosity and observation
Games and communication with the father stimulate creativity. Dad says little, but about the fundamental things - black holes, polar bears and even how to throw a matchbox on the kitchen cupboard. To present in this role the mother is rather problematic, her task is to teach the baby how to do it. Men by nature must constantly move forward, invent something. It is especially important to develop curiosity in girls, because boys are initially more focused on trying something new. Given the inherent attachment of girls to the house, to what is immediately surrounding them, the pope must strive to expand the horizons of the daughter, to acquaint himself with what goes beyond what is already known to her.
Dad's advice
Do not forget that creativity has a downside. Inventiveness is good when you need to find a way out of the crisis. In ordinary cases, the search for multiple possibilities can seriously complicate the process of choice and decision-making. For the child's unformed personality, a constant change of actions and impressions is too serious a load. It can weaken the mechanisms of psychological defense.
Therefore, try to keep the rhythm of life that is familiar to the baby. Remaining with the child for a period of time without a mother, it is not worthwhile to feed him immediately sushi, a steak with blood, to lead guests to unfamiliar uncles (let them be your cronies), suddenly teach him to draw ketchup and mayonnaise on the table ...
To switch from building a skyscraper to a house of cubes, dad needs time. Women are emotionally stressed out in conversation. Man, in order to relieve stress after work, you need to be alone - click on the TV remote control or the computer mouse button (flashing pictures helps to unload the head). So try to come to a compromise with your wife - you need 20 minutes of rest after work to stay alone with yourself, then you can deal with the child, freeing your mother.
Papin's authority helps children to achieve success in a purposeful way. The word game teaches analytical thinking and develops small motor skills, which, as is known, also stimulates brain processes:
"Buttons"
Take a transparent bottle with a screw cap and 10 buttons. Think up words that start with the letter A. For each word, throw the button into the bottle. When you collect everything, close the bottle with a lid (in this game both speech and fine motor skills develop).
"Pyramid"
Collecting the pyramid, say the words that begin with the letter B. One ring is one word. Letters, of course, can be changed.
Dad's advice
In contrast to maternal gentleness, the father's role is control. But learn to be consistent in your bans and permissions. The popes like to say that they will not "compromise" principles, but in fact they often show an uncompromising attitude in small things (suddenly the baby whose toys have been lying on the carpet for three days must "immediately, this minute put in order!"). In this case, the popes are very loyal to the violation of the basic rules (well, rude to my grandmother, well, stole the machine - what nonsense, who did not have this!). In doing so, you disorient the child. If for the same action the dad reacts differently each time, the child is more difficult to learn how to behave correctly.
Innovation and risk
A familiar picture on the playground. While mothers are constantly watching the child, repeating at every step, "Be careful!" And "Fu, it's indecent!", The popes boldly "twist" the baby from side to side, teach to walk on a log, explore new territories.
Dad's advice
It is very important not to get carried away. Often, the peak of father's playful activity falls at a time when the kids need to be laid to sleep (it's not so easy to do it later). Remember that at the age of 2 to 4 years, children easily lose control over their feelings, such as love, hate, fear. They do not very clearly distinguish between the real and the unreal. If the father plays a bear, then the child at this point and in fact considers him a bear. This is too strong an experience for such a baby. Therefore, violent games should be good-natured and short-lived, even if the child asks for more. It is very important that they do not outgrow the pursuit or fight, but remain within the acrobatics.
Control and self-control
Dad can better arrange for the baby the boundaries of what can and can not be, based on a specific situation. Of course, it's bad to spit (although you can joke sometimes), but one can not categorically spit at the elders - it will have the worst consequences, as it violates social norms. The father teaches the child to control himself and not "let him down" relationships with other people.
The "traffic light" method
Mentally, divide into three fields the evaluation of child behavior and follow it clearly. Everything is allowed: play in any room, climb to your parents in the morning to bed, pour yourself water ... - you can do everything, but with the condition: throw toys only in your room, invite guests, warn parents, take from the box only plastic beads .. .
Strictly not: run across the road, draw on the walls, call out, bite.
Games with dad
On physical activity:
1. After putting the baby on the ball with the tummy, hold the legs and lightly push forward, and then back. This exercise is for the development of handles and shoulders. When the kid can easily cope with this exercise, you can keep him by the legs, and he will go on his hands. It is desirable that the child's body is parallel to the floor.
A cord, a cord to lay in the form of a circle is a "house", there it is possible to hide. They need to be done in different rooms. Then begins the game of catch-up. Purpose: the child runs to the "house", where he already has protection. Then you can swap roles with crumbs. On the street "houses" can be drawn circles (squares) with chalk, on the sand, on the snow.
Of course, dads are also worried, but they express their feelings more restrained. They believe that only through experimenting with oneself you can learn to be independent.
Way home
Returning from a walk, ask the baby to bring you home. Give him the opportunity to go where he thinks fit, from time to time ask clarifying questions: "And we kind of had a birch near the house, and here there are garages." Suggest an idea for him and you an image: for example, you are captains of a spacecraft that are looking for a way home.
Dads often refuse children in very simple and harmless things (playing with other kids, choosing clothes themselves), perceiving it as a whim. Help them change the point of view in this case should mom.