It often happens that a man gets acquainted with a girl, he likes him very much, he is ready for a relationship with her, and she seems to too. Ie, both can already become a good pair, and they are not hindered here. But the man, for unknown reasons, enters a state of "pause", in which he is idle, but his feelings for the girl continue to develop. But, in life, it so happened that girls do not have such a regime, that is, they do not have a "pause" mode. And what does this mean?
Since the girl will not take the first step herself, nothing will happen, but her feelings for him ... He will gradually become just a friend for her. And such a relationship man will not arrange. They will be friends well for several years, but after a few years he will still try to get closer to her, despite his various complexes. Why is this happening? Because the man has already considered the girl well, he knows her very well now. It can always support in a difficult situation, but the girl does not need it ... There is a pretty interesting principle that also explains why men like to return to the former.
That is, you should understand that women like to learn something new, and for men it's quite the opposite, they are ready for a serious relationship with a girl only after they know her better, because that will cause the least problems.
Do not think that all men meet their soul mates in this way - it's not. Men can start to take serious steps and at the very beginning - this happens most often. And it is precisely these pairs that have conflicts, and the girl starts to ask herself a question after the guy leaves: "Why does a man like to return to the former? ".
Men like to return to the former for good reason. There are a lot of explanations for this, but now we will try to figure out what is coming back to us after all.
We at first did not knowingly told about the failures of men, remember? About how he becomes a friend with time and stuff. The same principle is also in divorce. Let's imagine a standard situation: you live with your husband for 2 years, everything is fine; it's been 6 years now, you're getting bored, your husband starts to enrage you, well, and other negative facts that can arise over a long life with each other. After 10 years of living together, you understand that you do not fit together. There are two variants of the development of events: you have children, you are alone. It is this factor that is the main factor in divorce. If you have children, you will feel sorry for them, and you will not part, and eventually you will understand that you did everything right. But if you are a childless family ... everything can easily end in divorce.
So, now we need to trace the life line of each of the spouses after the divorce. The girl has many chances to get remarried, she will not be stopped. She, in most cases, will do just that. As for men, then everything is much more complicated. But whether he will want this, because his first marriage ended in failure, there is a possibility that with the second it will end this way. He would not like this, he begins to think about how he will spend his life. He begins to recall the positive moments of life with his ex-girlfriend, how everything was fine, etc. And he realizes that she, the one and only, needs him. He starts to call her, they start communicating and everything starts to get better, and even if they are lucky, they will resume their marriage again. Then everything should go "like clockwork", so it usually happens. This is the first option.
There is another reason why you divorce, well, men like to return to the former. It's all about the same principle. Having lived together for quite some time, he realizes that he has learned you very well, he can do absolutely anything that would be good for you. He accumulated all this information for many years, and he succeeded. Now he, for the time being, lives himself and understands that with the new girl will have to accumulate this information again. But why do it, because there is already a girl whom he knows very well, and she too? After all, you can resume the relationship and continue to live, as if nothing had happened. So too often happens, and it suits everyone, because it does not make anyone any worse.
A fairly common cause of divorce is a moment like "addictive". You live very long with each other, you are tired of each other, you want at least some kind of diversity. There is a divorce, and to resume, sometimes, there is no possibility. To avoid this, you need to live in a marriage correctly. Make at least some variety in your life together. Try something new. After all, men are very honest, they want to stay with another girl in bed, but they can not do this. And you, of course, do not let him do this. Then he, deep in consciousness, has an idea. I will part with you for a while, walk a little, and then come back to you. That is, it is clear that her husband will want to go back, because he did it for a while. He suited everything in marriage, he just wanted a change, that's all.
That's why women in serious relationships need to pay attention to the wishes of her husband. After all, not only yours, but also his desires must be fulfilled. Then the chances for the collapse of marriage are much less. You can avoid unnecessary conflicts that arise from trivialities.
We have analyzed the main several reasons why men leave women and try to return. These reasons are suitable for those couples who are well with the relationship, and they fit together, but long marriages now are a rarity. The main advice: after the divorce do not rush to forget about your beloved, wait for him to call, or, although his pride does not allow, call him yourself. Talk to him about life, ask what he did not like about living together with you, maybe you can correct these shortcomings and everything will be fine for you.