You have everything: mutual love, understanding, respect for each other. But in his plans for the future does not include the very ceremony with a veil, a multi-story cake and two rings. And you already packed up with rice so that they would shower you at the exit from the registry office, and look at the set of eye-popping underwear, and even realized that this is (ideally) the last man with whom you will be in bed. But he does not offer hands and hearts. Why?
1. Restriction of freedom
Firstly, among men the most horrible stereotype is spread, that a golden ring on the ring finger of the right hand can greatly affect its freedom. The man completely forgets that it was you who, having started a relationship with him, lost a significant part of his freedom, abandoning evening walks with girlfriends, hiking with them to a club or a restaurant.
If you have a different situation, then you can only envy, because most of us greatly narrow the circle of communication. He did this to you, limited your freedom and now is afraid that the same will happen to him. Keep him on a short leash - an invention that will one day be defeated. A man should explain (and in some cases himself) that trust is an integral part of the relationship. He can, has every right to go with friends to bars, restaurants and baths. Because you understand (!) That resting from each other is important, as well as not forgetting about old comrades. And what he does there must be on his conscience.
2. His friends are bachelors
When around all friends do not have a permanent relationship or do not want to get married, a man is afraid of appearing as a black sheep. What will the comrades say? How will it look against their background? No matter how loving a man he is, he understands that when a purely male company is going on, dating is possible. It is not necessary that your betrothed will rush to fight the newly-made beauty, but among his free friends he will feel atrocious. Over time, all friends will have permanent girls and wives. Since he is so dependent on his comrades, he will have to wait for a while or introduce his girlfriends to his friends.
3. Large financial expenses
Wedding - an event that requires serious expenses. Think about the money, what costs you expect and whether your man can cover them, will the budget of the future family suffer. Of course, you can play a modest wedding, buy an inexpensive dress or rent it, limit yourself to close relatives and save on a limousine, banquet and other joys. Perhaps a man wants the perfect wedding for you and puts money back on her.
4. Housing problem
If neither he nor you have a vacant apartment, where after your wedding your young family could live, then you will have to co-exist with your parents. This is difficult for many reasons. First, there must be one mistress in the house, it's unlikely you will be it, not his or your mother. Secondly, he or you will have to get used to other people's habits, and this is not easy. Thirdly, to live separately is to live separately.
5. You have many whims and too big requests
For himself, few people notice these two shortcomings. You perceive the fulfillment of all your desires as a norm, forgetting even to thank. It suits him, while you're just his girlfriend, but there are fears that after the wedding requests will grow and the man simply can not cope with them. Look closely at yourself, do not you look like the old woman who wanted more and more, and as a result she stayed at the broken trough. A man is not ready to turn from a goldfish into your slave, making you a sea lord.
6. You do not know how to cook
Scrambled eggs, mashed potatoes, dumplings and sausages can cook almost every one. You do not even know how to do this? Then you need to run to the stores for a cookbook and food. Learn to manage not only with his favorite dishes, but also to please something new. Talk to his mother, find out about his preferences and her secret recipes, pay attention to what he orders at the restaurant. Do not torment talk about proper nutrition, the benefits of greenery and the harm of roasted meat.
7. You are too naughty wife
No wonder he keeps quiet about the wedding, because you yourself talk too much about her: the names of future children, the color of his shirt, the style of your dress, the list of guests, the location of the wedding ... and he once mentioned only a few words about her .
8. The fear of having children
One of the main differences between cohabitation and family is the presence of children. Of course, you can get a child, and not being in an official marriage with a man, but for the most part children appear after registration. And your man is not ready for this yet. He is afraid that immediately after the wedding you will decide to devote yourself completely to the future offspring, stop working and begin to pay less attention to it.
9. He is young
How old do you say your man is? And he managed to "walk up"? Many do not want to get married at the age of 30, because they believe that the registry office is not the dentist's office and can always wait.
10. He was already married
What to do, a man experienced all the pleasures of marriage and especially felt all his shortcomings and minuses. Now he wants to live in peace and not to sweat about marriage. Convince him that the wedding with you will have other consequences - it's difficult, and it's not necessary. He must himself come to this conclusion, so it remains only to wait until he ripens and ripens at all.
Men are no less strange creatures than we are. It is possible that you are just wasting your time thinking about the fact that he does not want to get married. And what if it's a surprise and tomorrow he will stand before you on one knee, holding flowers and a box with an engagement ring in his hands?
Margarita Wagner stylemania.ru