It seems to you that he has changed. He is no longer what you loved him. And you, do not you change? Do you really think that you have remained the same young laughter that a man, once disgusted with you, was in love with, like a madman.
Many sayings and phrases were invented on the topic of the fact that sooner or later love leaves. Some people prefer to shield themselves from the opportunity to experience a feeling of love. For the sake of what to spend your strength and emotions, if love ends. After all, according to public opinion, love has a shelf life.
Maybe it's worth investigating, is this the case and why does love go away.
What is love for you? Of course, everyone understands it in their own way. But, for each lover behind his back grow wings. When you love, I want to enjoy life and to please everyone around me, especially the object of love. You are drawn to your beloved person, and you can not imagine your life without him.
A loved one becomes the center of the universe. Even thoughts do not arise to offend, betray or humiliate. After all, your love is the most precious and valuable thing in your life.
Really, all these wonderful feelings will eventually disappear. And, what then will remain?
To understand why love goes away, it is necessary to understand why you fell in love with your chosen one. If only for a beautiful smile, beautiful body, external data, beautiful sex - then the probability of the disappearance of love increases. After all, all of the above is of no importance. And, hardly, it is necessary to consider that this is love.
Maybe you fell in love with a man only because he cares beautifully and attentive to you? You love his attitude to yourself. The beginning of a love relationship implies increased attention to the subject of love. But, when the "rose-colored glasses" fall, a fuse of strong feeling will pass - what will then remain in your heart? There will be a sense of habit, daily flowers, coffee in bed and romantic dates will be lost. Then, most likely, you will be disappointed in the partner, as you will understand that he, besides you, has his own life.
This "love" also quickly disappears.
Love is when you love not a beautiful appearance, not his attention to yourself. Love is when you love the person himself, such as he is.
And, now think, if you fell in love with a person, because he loves children, he is kind, confident in himself. Think, will love go away, if you just love this person as he is? Not paying attention that over time, he recovered or stopped, because earlier to carry flowers to your feet? You value his inner world, his personal qualities. Yes, of course, it has drawbacks, but you also learned how to love them.
Believe me, if your love is just like that, then it will never disappear. Only those feelings that pretend to love go away, but they are not.
Love can be blunted. This is influenced by everyday things - everyday life, problems at work, problems in the family. Constant quarrels and quibbles against each other - love is killed most quickly.
If, you want to keep love in your relationships for many years, then learn to understand and respect each other.
Live one day and stop constantly thinking back to the past. Remember that you can hardly get back the old feelings. But, to update them is real.
Today, when you come from work, look at your spouse with other eyes. Maybe he changed outwardly, but, deep down, he is still the boy you once fell in love with with all your heart.