From the point of view of child psychology, the infancy period for infants continues until they begin to smile, reacting to the human voice. As soon as the kid smiled, we can assume that the first stage of the formation of his psyche - the foundation on which all his further development is based - is over.
Now the baby begins to pay attention to the world around him, and the main conductor, protecting from any dangers, giving a sense of security, security and helping to adapt in this wonderfully interesting world, is for the baby, of course, my mother.
Especially important is the constant communication and communication with the mother for a child of up to a year. Observations of psychologists showed that if the mother's communication with the child of this age is for some reason insufficient, this most negatively affects the entire subsequent life of the child, depriving him of self-confidence and forming in him an idea of the surrounding world as an unfriendly and full of all sorts of dangers. That is why it is so important that there is a strong and constant contact between the baby and his mother. The main components of successful mother-child communication:
- Breastfeeding is the very first and basic aspect of communication. Baby is applied to the breast immediately after childbirth. When a baby comes into the world, it experiences great stress, and to protect itself from the destructive effect of this stress on the psyche, it is necessary for him to feel the habitual warmth of the mother's breast and hear his mother's heartbeat. In addition, it has been proven that breast milk contains substances that strengthen the immunity of the child and favor the normal development of its nervous system. For these reasons, breastfeeding is not recommended to be replaced by an artificial one.
- Touch. While the kid has not yet learned to understand human speech, he is especially sensitive to maternal touch. On them he determines the state and mood of the mother and through them feels the mother's love and tenderness. Therefore, the touch of the mother to the baby should always be gentle, affectionate and calm. The child should be ironed, hugged and kissed as often as possible. Do not touch the child in a bad mood, as it will immediately be transmitted to him, and the baby, having felt the alarm, will begin to cry, to be capricious. Many experts advise before breastfeeding to undress a baby, since physical contact not only calms his nervous system, but also contributes to better milk production from the mother.
- Speech. Although babies do not yet understand the meaning of the words spoken, they perfectly follow the intonation with which they are addressed. Therefore, it is not so important what exactly the mother will say, how important it is that there be gentle, gentle and calm intonations in her voice. Observations showed that the child is able to distinguish the mother's voice from many others! In addition, children with whom their mothers talk constantly develop faster and subsequently have more vocabulary than children whose mothers did not find it necessary to talk with them.
- Eye contact. Child psychologists believe that mom should look into the eyes of her baby for at least 15-20 minutes a day. It's not for nothing that close people understand each other at a glance. The eyes of a person are a mirror of his soul, so the child will always understand what his mother wants to tell him. The main thing - in his mother's eyes he will see her endless and boundless love. And if, when looking at the baby, the mother will smile and smile, she will necessarily give him her good mood and a state of joy.
- A joint dream. The view that sleeping with an infant in one crib does not follow, and that during sleep mother may accidentally pinch or hit her child, has no basis and is mistaken. The mother's dream is very sensitive, and even in a dream the loving mother listens to every rustle of her child and controls her movements. On the other hand, if the mother drives the husband to another room, taking the baby to her, nothing good will end it ...
But if the child is restless, often crying at night and can not fall asleep without a mother, then there is nothing wrong with a joint dream. Near the mother, little children sleep more calmly, because they feel safe. Usually children after a year start to aspire to independence, then separate from a mother sleep is perceived by them much less painfully. In the end, in order not to sleep with the baby in the same bed, the mother can put the baby's bed next to her bed, and he will still feel her presence and sleep calmer.
American scientists carried out interesting studies that showed that children under the age who sleep separately from their mother, about 50 times per night, there are disruptions in breathing and heart rhythm, while in children sleeping in the same bed with their mother, such malfunctions were recorded in several times less.