Children's aggression is purposeful. It should indicate to parents, first of all, their mistakes. The thing is that the child's reactions are a reflection of the situation in the family and most often, it is family problems that provoke her manifestation.
Family causes of aggression in the child
Admittedly, these are the most common causes of aggression in a child. Children react very sensitively to all problems, especially if they arise between parents. In some cases, these reactions are rather harsh and can develop into aggression towards objects, surrounding or even parents.
"Alien" for parents
If the child was unwanted, often the parents are stingy in love. In some cases, they even tell the kid that he was not expected at all and he is just an unpleasant accident that happened to them. In such cases, he tries with all his might to draw attention and prove that they are worthy of love. In fact, by such actions, children tend to win the love and attention of their parents.
Parental indifference and open hostility
Some parents sacrifice a lot for their children. It takes several years and adults begin to regret the lost and blame the child. Most often, this is done not in direct words, but in an attitude that is openly hostile. Screaming, reproaches and even punches become the norm in communicating parents and a child. This causes resistance in him. He tries everything to do evil, acts with his parents just like they do with him.
Constant quarrels in the family
Observe the disagreement of parents, the worst thing you can wish a child. Constant quarrels between them destroy the emotional bond of the family. A child can never foresee whether a volcano will explode today or everything will be calm. He tries to reconcile his parents, but often this is useless. If the situation is not resolved, there is a chance that in the future he will be a callous manipulator. Every suggestion to do something good will meet the reciprocal manifestation of aggression and rejection.
Disrespect for the child
If parents constantly criticize or insult a child, soon he will respond to them with aggression, which can develop into habitual behavior. Especially it concerns public criticism and insults. This behavior of the parents is very offensive to him, causes uncertainty and causes self-assertion through aggression.
Abundance or lack of attention
One of the most common causes of aggression in a child. If there is a lot of attention - the child becomes spoiled, as a result of which he believes that everything should be his. Aggression is the logical reaction to rejection. If attention is always small, the child tries to get it by any means available to him. Parents always respond to aggression: abuse, punishment, etc. Despite the fact that this is a rather specific answer, the child is content with it, as nothing else gets.
Why is the child aggressive?
In addition to family circumstances, there may be other causes of child aggression. For example, your baby can be overly emotional and not be able to express his emotions differently. It happens that aggression manifests itself in moments of fatigue, poor health. By the way, even products can cause aggression. For example, excessive consumption of chocolate, or fatty foods, increases the level of cholesterol in the body, which provokes the production of adrenaline and increased aggression.
Be attentive to your child. Teach him to control anger or transfer it to safe objects in a game form. Help in this can foam balls that can be thrown at the target. Offer the kid a game in which he will play when he is angry.
It is very important to teach him to determine his emotions and talk about them. Thus, together you can find a compromise and solve the conflict that arises. If you do not have time to notice these destructive changes in it, contact a child psychologist who will correct it and your behavior.