For sure, every woman at least once did not want to have sex with her husband. It's not even about how much you are married, you can overtake it completely at any time. What to do with it?
Why do not you want to have sex?
In order to solve the problem, it is necessary to understand its causes, because of what it happened.
- Reflection in the mirror, to put it mildly, is not encouraging. Often, women who have ceased to like themselves, cease to have a desire for a husband. In this case, the woman is afraid that something will go wrong and she will not like her husband.
- A child has appeared. As a rule, with the advent of the baby, a stormy sex life comes to naught. And many reasons contribute to this: fear that the baby will wake up and begin to cry, fatigue (mostly young mothers always dream only of a dream), hormonal changes and dissatisfaction with their changes in the figure.
- Relations with her husband are not so smooth. It has already been said that proximity is an indicator of family relations. All quarrels and conflicts will necessarily find a way to reflect on the intimate sphere. There are times when a gloomy look or an unfortunate word leads a woman into a rage, gives rise to resentment, dislike, and in the head a thought is born: "I do not want a husband!"
- There is no romance. Women who have already been married for many years do not want to have sex with their husbands, because they have absorbed their everyday life and life. Practically there is no foreplay, all the same bed, every next movement of the husband you already know in advance, all the same postures, which already had a small amount, have become so tired that it overtakes every couple of years of living together.
- Fatigue. Care of children, irregular working day, a huge number of duties around the house - all this makes you aware of yourself, moreover, discourages the desire to make love. If a woman worked all day and engaged in household chores, and in the evening barely crawls to the bed, she only wants to rest and sleep, she does not even want to think about anything, not exactly to have sex.
- Hormonal contraceptives. If a woman is protected by pills, then you should read the leaflet. Particular attention should be paid to the section "Side Effects". In general, some hormonal contraceptives reduce libido, as a rule, it is indicated on the package. Go to the doctor and discuss with him how best to do in this situation, perhaps he will advise some other drug.
What to do?
First, think carefully about the reason for your unwillingness to make love with your husband. Now that you have defined it, you need to take action.
- You do not want intimacy with your husband, because you think you lost your former attraction and are afraid that you will not like it? After all, we know that we are able to create problems from scratch. For example, a husband likes your forms to be rounded up, she does not think you are ugly, but we can think of ourselves that the muzhueto does not like and maybe even disgusts him. In that case, take up your self-esteem and directly ask the spouse about what interests you, like you or not. If the husband says that he loves you anyway, then there is nothing to worry about, but if he really does not see you as an attractive and beautiful woman, then go for a beauty salon and a gym. Take care of yourself.
- Do you renounce your intimacy with your husband because you are afraid of him? He did not fulfill what you asked him, forgot to congratulate your mother on his birthday, allowed himself to put it inaccurate in your address, or forgot about the anniversary of your wedding - there are many reasons to "blow your lips" on the spirits. However, you do not need to endure conflicts and quarrels in the bedroom. Promise yourself that you will not go to bed until you reconcile or resolve the conflict. Immediately tell your spouse that you do not like it, that he did it wrong or said, let him apologize to you. It is not worth it to be in yourself, because grievances and emotions create a huge coma that will break out at any moment and you will organize a whole war rather than a small quarrel.
- Families with young children deserve a special attention. Young moms, probably, think least of all about sex, and even do not remember about it at all, because now in the first place they do not have a husband iintim, but a favorite baby. Wash, clean, take care of the crumbs, and cook together with her husband in turn. Witches are both parents, and the husband also needs to help you, so that you can rest. For the neighborhood is suitable room in which there is no child, so that there is no fear that the rooster will wake up, see something and so on. If possible, take the child to the grandmother, ask relatives or friends to stay with the child, take a walk, and surrender yourself to love.
- If you fall off your feet in the evening, feel yourself tired and broken, then try to invite your husband to help you and take some of the household chores for yourself. If he agrees and will help you, you will feel much better. If you are exhausted at work, then ask the head to leave. You just need to rest. The most ideal option is to go on vacation with a loving husband. So you immediately and change the setting, and relax, and establish intimacy with your spouse.
- Experiment to help. Try to add a father to the relationship with her husband, if he does nothing. Try to rekindle your feelings with a romantic dinner, candles, rose petals, pleasant music, create a different setting for intimacy. Try to do everything that comes to your head, and do not be afraid to seem ridiculous and funny, it's your husband, he vospodderzhit. If you have sex only in the bedroom, try moving to the kitchen or to the kitchen. In the end, take a room in a hotel for one night, go to another city or in general to another country. Try to apply the new poses, try to please her husband in unusual ways, go to the sex store, buy a couple of toys for adults.
What to do if nothing helps, and I still do not want a husband?
Maybe your body, your body, hint in such a way that it's time for the husband to change. Of course, this is the last possible way out, but, unfortunately, this happens in life. Perhaps your louse's feelings have faded and you have stopped loving your spouse, try to live apart from each other, maybe then everything will work out. You will understand that you still love him and a new wave of feelings will flood you. However, if in this case nothing happened, do not worry, because life is one. Remember that sometimes it's better to part ways to find your happiness and give the opportunity to find it for your husband. Love and be loved!