Joy, rapture, anxiety, panic ... Whatever you feel is right! It all depends on the circumstances in which you are, your relationship with your wife, the financial situation of the family and your personal feelings (among which there is fear, euphoria, doubt, and memories from childhood).
Take it all, and sort out a little in the chaos of emotions. The idea should prevail that you and your loved one will always cope. You will be good parents, while remaining a wonderful couple. Moreover, you have all chances to get closer even more. And your little family will be better, fuller and ... more real with a young dad - a responsible person. What is needed for this? A lot of mutual love and our advice.
Favorite turns into mom
The first thing you notice is the changes that occur with the wife. You need to be ready for them. It does not necessarily mean that she will become a capricious and tearful young lady, but with her, important metamorphoses do occur.
And it's not just a toxicosis, constant drowsiness and increased nervousness, but also that the expectant mother often feels how the outside world is gradually being pushed into the background, and she is concentrating on the miracle that happens inside her. Even you sometimes feel her detachment.
But now, when you know that this is natural, you will not become offended. It is so? Be prudent, gentle and caring. Do not try to prove that the wife is not right in something. Always stay strong, affectionate, kind. Sorry and support. Such your behavior will help her to feel the support, she quickly adapts to the young dad - the responsible person. And the next two terms will be calmer. By the way, it is proved that the future pope lowers the testosterone level in the blood, which means that you become softer, more tolerant and easier to empathize with. So nature helps you too!
Admit , you do not know much about pregnancy. Something I heard from friends, I once watched about this TV show. It's time to catch up. What for? Of course, to be aware of what happens to your beloved and baby.
You should know why it is necessary to drink these or those vitamins, why regularly do tests, what to eat for breakfast with toxicosis and even what things to buy for a future baby. Such involvement in the process of bearing crumbs will help you become a conscious father who will easily find a common language with the child right after his birth. On this depends and how quickly in the family will reign harmony and a new order - the factors necessary for the normal development of the baby. Above all, never stop in the knowledge of the new. Of course, you have a lot to do, now you are practically the only breadwinner, but this does not mean that you can move away from the most important thing: from your own child and your beloved woman.
Thoughts of shared births
The decision on whether you should be present at the birth of a child, you must take together. Just make a prearrangement: you can not force anything. This should be the inner choice of two.
Joint childbirth with a young dad - a responsible person - is good, but only when both parents are ready for them. If you are afraid of something (blood type, unusual position of the wife, unaesthetic question), then you can compromise: you help during the fights, and return to get back to take the baby from the midwife. And it is possible that the beloved will refuse your presence. Find out from her why she so wanted. The reasons are many, but one of the most frequent - does not want you to see her ugly and exhausted. Surely you will find arguments to convince her that she is the most beautiful for you. Always! In general, talk to each other about everything.
Life after ...
Discuss what it will be ahead of time. How long does the wife leave work? Who will help her? Or maybe you'd better go on maternity leave, and return to work for a young mother ...
No social stereotypes should influence the family decision. First of all, think about the good of the baby. Of course, it's more natural for Mom to be next to a baby. But if the spouse has a successful and financially more stable career, then why do not you replace it? After all, for a child, the native dad is closer to someone else's aunt - nurse. On the other hand, the increased responsibility will be an incentive for you, and you, perhaps, will make a dizzying career: the beloved and the baby are in your care, so homely and tender. From this you become even stronger - all obstacles on the way are easily overcome. This is the final stage of growing up. The most important thing in your life.
Hooray, he was born!
Tears of joy, trembling and confusion because you are afraid to pick up this tiny creature. These vivid experiences are the beginning of a new life, a life of three.
Right now, think about how you will educate your baby. A conscious approach is an important condition for your mutual understanding. You do not need to replace your mother. You have another task - my father's. Without hesitation, take a walk, bathing and ... talking about the laws of the universe, for example. The male function is to comprehend the unknown and to attach children to it. Do not think that it's too early to start such an activity. Just remember that everything is new for the baby, and show the world from the simplest: touching your cheek, the sound of a bell, a bright spot on the wallpaper ... You will quickly learn to understand how the crumb has already grown and expand the circle of knowledge. You will not have a more grateful listener! The highest reward is the achievement of crumbs ... as your unique portrait, for example.