Outside the palaces and secular duties, there were no such extreme marriages, but from the age of fourteen to fifteen, the girls were already considered to be "extradition" ladies. In fact, the girl's initiation into the girl passed at maturity, when the girl became capable of conceiving and procreating. Early marriages among young men were less common, but the twenty-five-year-old single guy was already a "bobyl". The main reason for this desire is the desire to preserve the chastity of the future bride. It is the bride, because, as the Cossacks say: "The man is responsible for the quantity, and the woman for the quality." In order to avoid unnecessary temptations, the girl was given in marriage.
Today, early marriages are a marriage of eighteen years. Speaking about the advantages and disadvantages of early marriages, it is necessary to make a reservation that everything depends on the couple. The life position in many respects determines whether the marriage will turn into a tragedy or will exist happily for many years.
Young age can turn out to be equal to both advantages and disadvantages of early marriages. On the one hand inexperience can lead to the fact that young people decide to marry based on some, even a very strong passionate feeling, but will not be able to really see each other. A marriage of convenience, if you have in mind the calculation, so to speak "spiritual", that is, the community of interests, the ability to find a compromise, respect for man - is possible only for a mature person. On the other hand, pure, believing in romance and eternal love, young hearts can withstand many blows of fate.
In many respects, the defects of marriage stem from the inability to distinguish between passion, love and love. There are no lovers who would not promise eternal love to each other, and there is no love that would last longer than four years. If we look only for the severity of the relationship and the ideal pair, then very soon, (alas, already there are children) and inevitably a person will find a new object of passionate passion. And passion always passes.
Love is beautiful, the first is in particular, but it's still very far from love. Love is the godmother of the family, who gives us promises. And our business is to fulfill them afterwards. Ask any elderly couple who has lived a happy life and you will certainly learn that they owe their happiness neither wild love, nor any special romantic coincidence of circumstances. And the fact that they are just loyal, patient, merciful, good people who know how to find a compromise, who have common sense and the ability to curb their passions.
Love, true love, quiet ardent desire, hidden deep in the heart - not so effective for films and books, and therefore - unfashionable in the social concept of "love." Even the adaptation of Jane Austen's book "Mind and Feelings", in which the superiority of common sense over the ardor of an inexperienced heart is glorified, was described in advertising as "the struggle of loving hearts with sanctimonious morality" in order to assemble the audience in cinemas. Alas, without this "sanctimonious morality" early marriage can only drawbacks.
The benefits of marriage concluded between young people are in the event that the couple:
- Really has the desire to create a family, understands its responsibility to each other and wants to share not only joy and bed, but sorrows, illnesses, lack of money, life, difficulties of raising children and other difficulties of our life.
- Is in good relations with the parents of at least one of the parties, and preferably - with both.
- There is at least a year before marriage! Not a day less!
Moreover, if at least from the girl's side there was no sexual experience, all these advantages can be multiplied by two. Such a marriage is quite likely to live "long and happily."
In the event that the young people decided to get married, if:
- They can not live without each other, and no one in the whole world, except for the two of them, is needed (one of the most frequent reasons for divorce in one or two years of living together).
- She "flew".
- I want to get rid of the guardianship of my parents as soon as possible.
- I want to always have a girl next to me who "gives".
That such a marriage is almost always doomed to become the first and unsuccessful attempt in the eternal search for unknown happiness.
Love must be learned. Love is work. Love does not have to be, it must be able to educate and preserve. And then a person will understand that she is the most beautiful thing in life. What in fact, just for the sake of it and it's worth living.