And it is not by chance: it will depend on the behavior of each of them whether a second meeting will happen at all. And the second date, as is known, is distinguished by a much higher chance to become the beginning of something serious. What happens when the first date ends and the most mysterious period of thinking about the next steps comes?
According to statistics, more than 80% of women behave the same after the first date: they are forgotten in long reflections about each of the words spoken at the meeting, gestures and events mentioned. After that, carefully analyzing their own mistakes and successful actions on the first date, the woman moves on to the next stage of thinking about the results of the meeting - the experience that there is no initiative to continue from him. But his behavior after the first date can be quite diverse, and depends on a number of circumstances, among which psychologists distinguish three groups of factors that determine the future actions of men.
Who is a girl for a man?
First, it all depends on who the woman is to a man with whom he had his first date. If this is a long-awaited object of sighs, a girl in whom he was in love for a long time and in return received only friendship from her or a few favorable views - then his behavior after the first date is part of a pre-planned strategy to win his queen. Within the framework of this plan, some deviations from the planned list of actions are permissible, but they are reduced to only minor concessions to the circumstances. Here there is an important condition: if the same one that a man has long dreamed about was not at all what he imagined, he most likely will continue to win it anyway, but he will not be able to win his victory either to him or her .
The second option is a random acquaintance or a girl who was previously not noticed and suddenly got into the lens of his attention. The behavior of a man after the first date with such a pretender to the role of his future life partner can be very diverse. He can call her back on the same evening, when the meeting took place, to thank for a wonderful evening, or maybe never in her life to appear. Here, the following two factors determine the behavior of a man.
How did the date go?
If, at the moment of walking under a romantic moon, both managed to completely forget about their experiences about what it is necessary to discuss at a meeting with a stranger, then one can be sure that such relations will certainly continue. And with a probability of about 90%, they will be initiated by a man. For him, lightness in dealing with a woman, devoid of mass of awkward statements and careless notes, is extremely important. For men, it is more important to even shut up with a woman so that they do not feel constrained by the need to break this silence somehow. Therefore, the behavior of a man after a meeting, in which the participants simply swooped before the morning rays of the sun - is predictable: sooner or later in the life of such a woman, he will certainly appear. But the time through which he will call - depends on the third factor that influences the decision of a man after the first date.
Circumstances of participation in the meeting.
It's not always a date with a stranger, colleague or friend - a premeditated step for a man. Moreover, according to statistics, the decision to organize such a meeting is spontaneous in 68 cases out of a hundred. Accordingly, it is not necessarily morally or technically a man going on a first date is free. He can be scheduled for the next few days an important trip, which is the least possible of evils. And still he can be waited somewhere by the girl, relations with which it for a long time any more do not arrange, but courage on break is not enough. In this case, if a man is worthy, then at least he will need time to tune in, decide and talk with her about the break. Sometimes after the first date a man begins to overcome complexes, which, alas, the stronger sex suffers much more than women. In this case, the behavior of a man after a meeting will directly depend on the determination of a woman who has managed to awaken in him doubts in himself and shame for the words spoken. Or from what he is surrounded: very often a wonderful relationship saves a presence next to a doubting male friend whose dignity is in an objective view of the situation.
Of course, the very heroine of the first date, the quality of the meeting and the circumstances linking the possibilities of a man are not all the factors that determine his behavior in the future. There are also a number of variable moments of influence. Among them, and the actions of an unsuccessful rival, which can prevent a man from continuing his relationship. And an unfortunate coincidence, when a man suddenly finds out about not the most pleasant characteristic of his companion, which the woman hid from him.
One thing about the behavior of a man in this difficult period, following the first date, can be stated with certainty: a man in love subconsciously seeks an opportunity to meet with the object of his lust. And to struggle with this "search radar" is useless. Therefore, the second date in this case will certainly - accidentally or specially, but it will take place. But this is only on the condition that the man fell in love with his companion on the first date. However, according to psychologists, this summary of the meeting for the stronger sex is not rare: about 60% of young men fall in love on the first date. True, among mature participants in a tete-a-tete meeting, such love is observed only in 28% of cases. Nevertheless, against the background of an identical indicator, but for women, at a level of 6%, this result is impressive.