And in Germany, the country with the most developed industry of films for adults, on reception to the sexologist turn. In our culture, pornography has become a universal sex toy. Do you want diversity? Look at porn. Do you want something forbidden? Look at porn. Did you get bored together? Look at porn. Are you alone? .. Well, then you yourself know what to do. Concentrated pleasure - it's like simple carbohydrates, which, bypassing all the numerous stages of digestion, coveted sugar fall right into our blood. And act on the body about the same. It is very easy to get used to what gets quickly and in a ready-made refined form. No setbacks, no doubts. You can always click and twist back, forward or replace the roller. Is it normal if a man visits porn sites every day or not?
Who loves porn
The human brain is a big greedy and slothful, if something can be achieved by a simple and energy-saving way, he will want only that. And porn saves emotional, intellectual, physical resources of a person and ... delays. When the primary dependence has already arisen, the perception of sexual relations begins slowly, at first completely unnoticeably, to change. Most likely, this is due to a decrease in the sensitivity of the "reward diagram" of the limbic system, a complex of brain structures that participates in the regulation of emotions, motivations and controls adaptation to environmental conditions. That is, this part of the brain is responsible for how we see the world. On the one hand, sowing on artificial stimulators of emotions (provocative sex video), we cease to enjoy good warmth), to the day, to the affectionate look of a loved one or successfully performed difficult work. On the other hand, we become more demanding: we need more and more acute pleasures. But the brain is arranged in this way: constant intense stimulation of the receptors dulls our sensations. And what a person sees in a pornoric is an unusually intense stimulation of the pleasure center. And it can not be repeated in real life: the viewer will always have a shorter term, fewer partners, and the only one that can hardly finish for forty can without interruption and, most likely, does not want to put a baseball bat in himself.
Disconnected from the network
Most men (and porn dependency is a problem exclusively of the stronger sex), who are hooked on pornography, simply do not notice what is happening to them. Usually they understand: they went too far first in a harmless hobby, when difficulties with erection begin. Here are excerpts from the records of Richard Gray, a patient who was treated for porn addiction in the Rehabilitation Center in Colorado. After several months of "abstinence," Richard again looked at a few clips: "The third and fourth films are almost the same as the second one: none of the participants is obviously not interested in what he does, everyone has tense, dull faces. The fourth, where everything is taken as close as possible, is likely to terribly like me earlier, but now more reminded of the culinary show, where the cook is cutting meat. To sex it had little to do with it. The fifth video was the only one I looked from start to finish: the guy was shooting his girlfriend (I sincerely hope not for my wife) during sex. She was against detailed shooting, asked to move the camera to the side and not to run too close to her genitals, but he insisted. In general, this is obvious violence. The fact that everything was done against the will of the girl shocked me. But even more - the fact that I used to watch these films often before and I liked them! "Yuri Prokopenko believes that porn audiences try on roles that are not their own - and the idea of the norm is shifting. After all, porn is rarely shown an average rate, simply because looking at ordinary sex from two ordinary people is boring. Therefore, there constantly changing the number and sex composition of participants, there is violence, postures are pretentious and unnatural. Psychotherapist Norman Doyd claims that consumers of hardcore porn can not enjoy without the pictures that lead to them. It is no coincidence that the pages of porn sites are full of advertisements of Viagra-type tablets, which were originally intended for men of the age. Today, young guys who are obsessed with porn often suffer from erectile dysfunction. However, the problem is not in the penis, but in the head, "says Doyge. Fortunately, they are completely solved a few months after the termination of active viewing of porn and a conscious fixation on the merits of a lively and loving woman. "
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Of course, to solve the problem alone, discarding disks and erasing links from the computer to porn sites, a man can not. The more understanding he meets with a partner, the faster he will begin to experience the pleasure of ordinary sex. However, according to sexologists, "sit next to and see the two of them," as many magazines advise, it is appropriate only if the girl is interested in what is happening on the screen. Through the power of doing this is not worth it. And the main thing is to remember: naturally everything that gives pleasure to both. For someone, anal sex is a necessity, for others - not. Also with the duration of the prelude, the duration of the sexual act. By the way, if you watch porn not for the sake of replacement, but for variety and curiosity - this will be the most that neither is the normal norm.