This problem is not new, but even the opposite is very old. But it seems that in our time it is not considered a problem, they do not write much, talk almost, do not discuss or condemn. What am I talking about? I have nothing to do, I'm talking about? About a woman or a girl whom my mother did not say in her youth: "Daughter, I implore you, never get in touch with married men, especially with those who have children, you can not build your happiness on another's misfortune!"
And these girls easily get acquainted with married men, and most importantly, it does not matter what he is, she just fell in love with her face, and the fact that he does not care about her, because she knows another aphorism: "The wife is not a wall, you can move, and with the children what? Nothing, she is a child, stupid, capricious, spoiled, selfish. And men use it, they flatter that a young girl is in love with him, and men in these quadrangles have grown young for a long time. We are not talking about "daddies", who often remain in the family, and their children have long been adults.
It seems like all this is quite simple. Young couples only depict love at weddings, and when life begins, as at all times someone does not like something, and the worst thing is that a married couple can not sit down and discuss the problem. Each of the two to himself thinks or thinks, tries to get away from the problem and how time shows - alone.
Here begins the reluctance to go home - there no one is waiting, not happy, they begin to find out the relationship, and the men are the weaker sex, they do not want to find out the relationship, to bear responsibility. Therefore, when it happened to get acquainted with some girl, he does not mind. First, he did not mind in retaliation for his lawful wife - he bothered, then he did not mind - it was possible to rest in another format, in another company, and then he stopped coming home and is not going to justify himself.
Wife, of course, has understood everything for a long time, and good people will be found - they will tell, but she is as if ready for it, she is self-sufficient, she is an emancipated woman, sometimes earns more than her husband several times, which calms her, the child and for a long time it was time to give birth ... But in fact, an abandoned woman can feel very strong pain, because she also loved. In the depths of her soul, she hates her abuser, she wishes her all the worst, she wishes that someday this razluchnitsa would be in her place, etc. And all this in life often happens, but the cycle with married men does not stop, why?
It's a pity in this circle only children. This husband and wife are in fact strangers, even if they lived together until a silver or gold wedding, they remained strangers. And only the children share them, because each of the spouses became a mother and a father to a child, who became a blood relative to both of them. Now this child experiences the most, he wants to live with his mother and father, he loves them both, but no one asked him. And it's good, if parents have enough intelligence not to divide the child, not to focus on the situation, especially since children in our century can be said to be "advanced", sometimes they do not need to explain anything, they understand everything themselves, and from the fact that love their parents the same way, and equally try to communicate with both. The pope brings the child to his new family, if I may say so.
Most often in the registrar, men repeatedly do not rush, and maybe they do not. This girl suits the title at the best of a civil wife, at worst - cohabitants, and in fact it was more beautiful - "mistress"! So who achieved what after all? I really want to know the answer to this question from each participant of this quadrilateral, or rather the triangle. We leave the child alone, he is the hardest of all, he has to adjust, answer his mother's dull questions, after he comes from the pope.
But I'll never believe this girl-razluchnitsu, if she says that she is all right. She can not do anything good, she does not even know what is good and what is bad, if from the very beginning she was ready for such a bad act - to smash someone else's family. She is now grown up, the time for fun has passed, and now she also has ordinary everyday life with this man, but she herself does not admit, even if everything is not good at all. And the man who still stayed with her, sooner or later, when they start quarreling, at least once, but she will surely reproach her: "You broke my family!" Because in his mind this first family will always be this the feeling in him is still preserved by the child whom he loves.
Girls, let's go back to the times of your grandmothers and grandmothers, when such actions were almost impossible. When such women despised even her own relatives, when upbringing in the end did not allow it to do so! Where did it go? If God gives you a daughter, do not forget to tell her that she would never have a relationship with married men, you understood this from your own experience, but nothing could be fixed.
Make your daughters happy, loved, and that no one has a reason to follow them to say something bad, evil and cruel! Cherish the love!