Conflicts: women affected by violence

According to existing information, every sixth woman suffers from bullying from close people and strangers. Rape is an extreme, but not so rare, form of violence against women. The forms of rape may be different - a sudden attack or persistent harassment ... So, conflicts: women affected by violence - the topic of discussion for today.

If a woman and a rapist used to be familiar, this fact can not rule out coercion. However, this circumstance is assessed in different ways, for example, it is interpreted that once a woman communicates with a man for a long time, then she can enter into intimate communication with him. Many men believe that if they invited a woman to a restaurant and paid for a treat, then she agreed to intimacy.

Victims of rape or other bullying, as a rule, experience a prolonged mental trauma. The intimidation that usually precedes violence, in itself, causes great stress. If a woman is deprived of the possibility of retaliation, the negative impact on her health is exacerbated.

DIAGNOSIS: THE REACTION TO VIOLENCE

Physicians-psychiatrists are aware of many manifestations of the crisis state experienced by victims of violence. They have an aggravated appetite and a dream, some deviations in behavior are noted, temporary forgetfulness is possible, it is difficult for them to concentrate. Almost always a woman seeks support from others. And at the same time, she usually begins to blame herself for not having given active resistance to the rapist ... Close people should not support her in this opinion, because in a critical situation it is simply impossible to envisage all the consequences, but the strongest and strongest a woman is still weaker than a man.

However, very often we come across the fact that everything is exactly the opposite. Sometimes they even joke about the victim of violence, they say, they had to "relax and have fun." When an adult single woman is abused, many question her behavior and are directly blamed for what happened. If this is a married woman, then the mother-in-law and her husband often become unwitting "lawyers" of the rapist. At first, seemingly showing compassion for the victim, they subsequently begin to look for reasons to blame her and justify the rapist.

WHO BECOMES A VICTIM?

Statistics say that about a third of those raped are under the age of 16. In children and adolescents, the main reactions to violence are the same as in adults, but additional symptoms are also noted - night terrors, urinary incontinence, etc. Many adolescents are strongly embarrassed; they are concerned about the attitude of peers towards themselves, some develop a panic reaction at the sight of a rapist or a place of rape.

In families where the victims live (both girls and boys), the attitude of parents towards them is often unfair. Hence there are various conflicts. Mom can punish her daughter - they say, she "is to blame for everything". Many parents refuse or are unable to provide psychological assistance to their child, they are afraid of publicity and therefore do not consider it necessary to turn to specialists for help.

More often than not, young unmarried women aged 17 to 24 become victims of sexual violence. At this age, many of them still do not know life well, are not sufficiently oriented in the intricacies of relations between people and can easily be forced into intimate communication.

LIFE GOES ON...

There is a certain sequence of the reaction of a woman to rape. The first stage is characterized by signs of psychological breakdown (shock, mistrust, abnormal behavior). The victim does not want to talk about what happened, can not decide to tell his relatives, doctors, police. The focus is on guilt and numerous questions: how close will they respond to publicity, whether it has become pregnant, whether it has become infected with a venereal disease, etc.

The second stage - the external adaptation - begins after a while. The first attack of anxiety passes. Trying to overcome past memories and regain inner self-control, a woman can return to her habitual way of life and live on as if the crisis had already been resolved.

However, the third stage is also recognized - recognition and permission, which may be unconscious both for the victim herself and her relatives. At this stage, the prevalence of depression and the need to discuss what happened. A woman who has suffered from violence realizes that one has to get used to the incident and resolve contradictory feelings towards the rapist. Many such women are willing to help other victims of violence.

A married woman can develop a peculiar stressful complex. Due to the fact that she could not protect herself, she begins to fear that she will not be able to protect her children. Besides, the woman is afraid that her husband will leave her.

WHAT CAN THE PSYCHOLOGIST?

Rape leads to severe mental trauma. In addition, the relationship with her husband often changes, it is not uncommon for families to disintegrate after the incident. It is very difficult to predict all the negative aspects that the victim may face.

After the report on rape, a woman is taken to the control of medical workers and the police. Her first desire is to feel safe, protected by any person. To help her, people of different specialties and related relations - a lawyer, a doctor, a close relative, a friend or a friend. In the police station or doctor's office, the victim must receive information about his further actions. This will allow her to navigate - to make the necessary decisions independently or to contact the relevant authorities.

Within each person who survives violence, the sea of ​​conflicts rages - women who suffer from violence have the hardest time. She, as a rule, needs urgent psychological help, in some cases can not do without a fairly long work with a psychologist. Its main task is to return the victim as soon as possible to normal life. It must be taken into account that the negative impact of rape is introduced into all spheres of the victim's life - physical, emotional, social, sexual.

After a trauma, a woman can have significant personality changes that adversely affect her work, study, family relationships. Victims may have suicide attempts, the development of alcoholism, drug addiction, psychosis, and somatic diseases. The first psychological assistance to the victim of violence can be provided by the telephone hotlines, which work around the clock in large cities.