There is an opinion that a man of any age prefers a younger partner, and a woman - a more experienced, and therefore a more senior partner. But according to studies conducted in the US, both men and women would prefer sexual relations with younger partners, if this did not cause such severe condemnation of others.
But it has traditionally happened that a man is older than his second half or her age. A large age difference in sexual relations is not always understood, and often even condemned by others. And meanwhile, even Hippocrates introduced the concept of "gerecomia", denoting the sexual life of a mature man with a young girl, having a rejuvenating effect on a man.
In many religions, the great age difference in sexual relations is seriously considered as a means of rejuvenating men. In history, there have been cases when even the popes through their fingers looked at the sex of men with young girls, especially virgins. For this reason, Rome constantly brought virgins to serve in the homes of noble masters.
In ancient Greece, many wealthy matrons adhered to the same views. They were given boys aged 12 to 14 who had not yet had sexual intercourse, either heterosexual or homosexual, which was common enough at one time in Greece. It was believed that a boy could serve as a "cure for old age" during the first 10 days after losing his virginity towards a woman who was his first sexual experience. When 10 days the child was exhausted, loaded with numerous gifts, released home. The virgins were valued so highly that the parents did not consider it shameful to give the boy to the house of a rich lady for 10 days.
If in Europe a woman was not considered sexual and most often held to the view that she is just an appendage of a man, then in the East, a religious mystical teaching called Tao (which means "path") teaches that the big age difference in sexual relations can prolong youth, it is favorable to affect well-being and prolong life. Tao adherents mostly live in China and Japan.
The ratio of Taoism to sex is quite rational: an active sex life is able to stimulate a person, and an unsuccessful one is the reason for the decrease in his vitality. This ancient conclusion was repeatedly confirmed by European medicine, and personal experience of each of us.
One of the central concepts of Taoism is the October-May relationship, which means the sexual relationship of partners who have a great age difference. And this age difference can be 50 or even more years, in the dao do not focus on the sex of a more experienced partner.
According to Taoism, in the pair "mature man - a young girl", a man tries to convey to a woman her experience in sex, and she exerts a positive influence on his sexual abilities with youth, care and caresses. In the pair "mature woman - a young man", a woman teaches a partner the skill of sex, and he, thanks to long and frequent sexual acts, satisfies the partner. Thus, the difference in age is capable of giving pleasure to both partners.
The only condition for the May-October relationship should be mutual attraction and voluntariness in sexual relations. According to Taoism, with voluntary coition, female and male energies merge, Jan and Yin, which has a beneficial effect on both partners. The greater the difference in age, the stronger are the energy flows, but at the same time, the more a man can lose energy that can not be restored, if the woman is not sufficiently excited, left unsatisfied or participates in coercive sexual intercourse. For this reason, such relationships were the pinnacle of sexual perfection, especially for the male part of the population.
Today, when the attitude to intimate issues is more relaxed and relaxed, the difference of spouses at the age of few people is surprising or causes condemnation. So, for example, Charlie Chaplin married eighteen-year-old Une O'Neal at the age of 58. Despite the 40-year-old age difference, they sincerely loved each other and had children.
The cases of reverse age difference, when the spouse is many years older than her husband, are not so common, and it is difficult to name examples of such marriages among famous women. But in our everyday life, one can give examples of marriages when the wife is several years older than her second half. I, for example, have acquaintances who have been married for more than 15 years, and the wife is 17 years older than her husband.
But from all of the above, one should not conclude that it is necessary to establish mass sexual relations with people of different generations. The difference of up to 10 years between spouses can almost be overlooked until the age of 50, when with the onset of menopause, it will still become obvious. And then different interests can become an indestructible barrier in the relations of spouses, because age also largely determines the interests of a person. Therefore, the family is strong, the interests of the spouses in which, if not completely coincide, are close.
Therefore, it is better to create a family with a man of about the same age as you, and May-October relations will remain for the elect. But still, if you really love a person - take risks. Do everything to your interests always coincide and create a happy family in spite of everything that you can prevent.