Social norms are also interfering. In many tales Vasilissa necessarily has a prefix "Beauty". And in order to be the most important, most successful hero of a fairy tale, a man does not need to be either beautiful or intelligent. Ivan the Fool usually takes with his spontaneity and the ability to see the world not as his educated or clever characters of the narrative see.
In ordinary life, everything is exactly the same. Fairy tales only reflect what is in reality. It is customary to think that a handsome man is a womanizer, that he is a scoundrel who is not capable of lasting feelings. Appearance of a man, as they say, should be a little prettier than a monkey. And to beautiful women, public opinion ascribes more merit and positive qualities. This immutable law builds the business of many glossy magazines that teach girls and women to be beautiful.
And yet, beautiful men for a girl can be more desirable and attractive. Beauty in general plays an important role in the first stages of the relationship. It is the trigger mechanism for the emergence of sympathy, which provokes a man and a woman to seek contact with each other.
For sure, each of the men at least once wondered whether the appearance of a man is important for a girl? There is no universal answer and can not be. Usually, people consider beautiful those people who, firstly, are close to them in terms of ethnic and national status. And secondly, we consider beautiful those people who are like people from our closest circle. Psychologists have proved that there are only two features of man's appearance that are universal for different cultures as criteria for beauty: height of growth and muscle mass. All other features are strictly individual, or vary from country to country, from city to city.
Objective canons of beauty in every society, however, exist. Not for nothing that there is the expression "recognized handsome." True, it is usually supplemented by the phrase "in the whole class" or "in the whole city". That is, a handsome man seems beautiful at once to many representatives of the area where he lives. And such handsome people enjoy increased popularity with the opposite sex. It is clear that in such a situation the question of whether the appearance of men is important for girls becomes purely rhetorical.
And yet there is a big difference between recognizing a man as beautiful and wanting to screw up a romance with him. As it turned out, both men and women who choose themselves as partners handsome, have a common character trait - they have a consistently high self-esteem. The same guys or girls who are not self-confident, suffer from a lowered self-esteem, other things being equal, they will choose someone who objectively does not seem to the most handsome.
In order for sympathy in a relationship to become more serious, one's beauty is not enough for either men or women. And women especially. Men can tolerate a beautiful but empty person next longer. But women quickly break off relations with empty-headed handsome men.
After the first euphoria of the beginning of relations, a period comes when the appearance recedes into the background. Common interests, general attitudes toward the perception of different life situations come to the forefront. Important at this stage is the general background of the person's mood. This is not the stage when you can show a partner anguish, apathy or depression. The smile, affability and warmth of contact at the stage of transition from sympathy to mutual attraction become an important attribute of successful relationships. At this stage the appearance of the man still plays a role for the girl, although not the key one. So it is not necessary from the first days of the novel to show each other in home and groomed clothes, in a bad mood or in drunk.
Some experts on family relations distinguish four phases of love - sympathy, attraction or attraction, love, love. By and large, a man's appearance for a girl is important only in the first two stages. And then even the big lovers of cute muzzles can feel a real flush of feelings for their boyfriend, even if he is not very handsome, because the first stages of looking after each other have already been passed.
Is there a special portrait of the girl's personality, which is important to the beauty of a man? Clearly such a portrait is difficult to identify. As already mentioned, a girl should have a consistently high self-esteem. Another important feature may be the desire to appear more beautiful to others than it is. This desire is in many women. Psychologists know that even the ugliest girl next to a handsome man looks like the queen of the ball. People are at first a little surprised by his choice, and then think that since he chose it, then it's worth it. So choosing a handsome man as a partner is a great social capital for a woman. After all, then she herself seems to others much more attractive.