Because of the pain that arises in the female soul, the representatives of the beautiful sex cease to adequately assess men. They in each see some kind of flaws, which are incompatible with their concept of happiness. But nevertheless, many girls still want to find their own happiness in the future. What should they do if, because of the disappointment, it is not possible to treat the men as worthy candidates? How to act properly, how to change your attitude, get rid of obsessive ideas and re-open your heart for relationships and feelings?
Take a timeout
Many girls make a huge mistake, trying to force themselves to change attitudes towards men and start dating someone. This can not be done in any case. A person is arranged in such a way that, at the moment of sensation of pressure, he wills-he will not riot to rebel. Therefore, if you want your personal life to gradually improve, first you need to balance your soul. While you do not do this, you do not even need to think about some normal relations. So just relax. Learn to live for yourself and think about yourself. After all, an adult interesting woman who has her own tastes and hobbies. Woti devote your time and attention to what you really bring happiness. You must relax and enjoy what is happening around you. It is you who should become the center of your little universe, and not some man you try to love, but you can not, because you just do not love yourself. And do not think about how you feel about men and what's happening to you. Do not want to communicate with the match, who came to you to get acquainted - do not talk. No one did not oblige you to reciprocate. If the man is Hamit - answer the same, because there is absolutely no right to climb into your personal space and spoil your mood. And never think about what such rejected and offended ones will say about you. A normal and adequate person will understand. And if he does not want to perceive you as you are, then why bother to exchange his powers and emotions for such a person? In order to revisit men, one must learn to live without them, to learn how to see in their own situation not bitterness, but joy. If you feel yourself self-sufficient and happy, then at some point you realize that you are no longer being angry with men, because you do not depend on them in anything. And when a person is independent, it is much easier for him to treat others with more loyalty, because these people give him less reason for disappointment.
Too many requests
Disappointed in men, a woman begins to push for candidacies for the role of a potential guy is too big zatry.Prichem, they themselves do not seem to be those. But if you think about it, the girl begins to look for the perfect guy, which simply does not exist. In each person there are minuses, just with one of them we can accept, and with others net.Poetomu, in order not to be disappointed in men even more, accustom yourself to think adequately and rationally, disconnecting your emotions and resentment. Every time you find in a man something that you do not like, think about how this minus can affect life and relationships, whether it is so terrible.
Your task is to learn not to justify and not humiliate the muzhchin in your eyes, but to see who they really are. Every person should have flaws, because if they are not, you either met an angel (and the fact that the angels are so perfect), or simply came up with someone who does not really exist. Any man has certain disadvantages. The question is what dignity can boast of. When a person allows himself to see what is in fact, and not what he himself represents, much less disappointment occurs in his life, because he is initially prepared for the fact that people around can make mistakes, offend, do stupid things and so on. And he immediately evaluates from whom you can get the least amount of negative, and with whom it is better not to get involved, since this person is totally unsuitable for him in life. So try always to think soberly and not to go to the senses, both positive and negative. Then you will be less frustrated and will be able to believe that men are able to be good, kind, faithful and loyal.
Here are some of the women nearby
Well, in order to learn to believe in men, you need to see next to yourself those who really can be admired. Father, uncle, brothers, friends, next to you should always be the men you can rely on at any time. In the life of every woman there are those of the stronger sex in which they are never disappointed. It is on these men you need to look to remember that in the world there are those who are worth spending their time and attention on. When you feel that you absolutely do not believe the men, remember how your grandfather year sought your grandmother, although she was so proud and unapproachable. Then you can overcome your disappointment and find someone who will be the same person, able to love, appreciate and be truly committed to his woman.