Probably, each of us was wondering why some people are kind and good, but someone must necessarily humiliate and insult a person in order to receive some kind of abnormal pleasure from this. What is the reason for the behavior of such despotic people?
Complexes
Few had managed to survive childhood and enter into life completely without complexes. There are only one such people. Basically, many events and the individuals surrounding us lead to the fact that people have certain complexes with which they struggle all their lives. Often, despots are those who were weaker than others, those who were mocked, those who were humiliated and slandered. Over time, these children and adolescents grew up, but the sense of humiliated dignity remained with them forever. And instead of sorting out something and changing something, despotic people begin to assert themselves at the expense of others. In the sight of their victims, they choose those who are weaker morally, those who will not fight back because they love this despotic person. In the behavior of despots, it is not always possible to find logic. They can start literally from a half-turn in those situations in which normal people generally do not pay attention to what has been said. Many believe that despots have certain problems with psyche, nor are they responsible for their actions. In fact, this is not so. Despot understands what he does, but often covers himself with some imaginary psychological diseases and so on. With such a tyrannical person, in any case, one should not give slack. If he begins to humiliate and insult, it is necessary to fight back. If you do not, the despot will always be confirmed at your expense.
Unfamiliarity
Another reason for the despotism of people is the rejection of the surrounding reality. That is, a person believes that those who are with him, live behave incorrectly. He is terribly annoyed and he tries to remake his environment, instead of simply leaving this circle of communication. Often a despot is sure that he knows how to whom it is better to do and what to do. If we ask the despot why he shouted at a man, mocked him, he will unhesitatingly answer that people themselves are to blame for having to be takobratsya. The despot may not see his problems, but he will always notice and think of the problems of other people. For example, very often despotic muzhirugayutsya and even beat their women, because they believe that they need something to teach and that they themselves are to blame. In fact, the despot is uncomfortable by the common man, who has his own opinion. Despotic nature in its own flawed, because they do not know how to expand the boundaries of their psychological world. People who can do this never become despots. Even if they have certain complexes, they struggle with them quite differently, discovering new interests, new outlooks and so on. With a despot, everything happens differently. He creates his own small world in which he establishes unbreakable rules. And if someone wants to live not according to these rules, the despot feels the need to teach a person mind-reason. At the same time, he completely disagrees with arguments, even if they are backed by logic. For the despotic person, the most important thing is always to remain right. Therefore, when he sees that someone's arguments can convince others, then he gets angry even more. For him, it's like another blow to self-esteem, which is already so understated that without submitting to others, the despot feels pitiful and insignificant.
Consciously and unconsciously
Despots are both consciously and unconsciously. If a person behaves despotically unconsciously, he is simply confident in his own right, which is imposed by complexes, surroundings and so on. Such a person is rather intellectually limited. He simply does not try to analyze himself and does not want to understand why his relatives and close-minded people call him a despot and so on. Such people behave decapitiously only out of good intentions. Simply, their world is much smaller, the acrusor is much narrower than that of other people. And when people start to go beyond iramki, such despots cry and threaten to force relatives into naught. The most common case of such despotism is when the father forbids his children from doing something, because he is sure that such studies will not bring anything good. Moreover, whatever arguments he was given, he would equally stand on his own, not listening to anyone. In general, despots never listen to someone else's opinion. That is why it is extremely difficult for them to convey information about their own behavior. But it is worth noting that those who behave despotically unconsciously can very much repent of their behavior when they understand what they are doing. Such cases are infrequent, but nevertheless, they happen. And when a person realizes how he constantly terrorizes relatives and close ones, he himself is horrified by his behavior, since everything he did not do, he did with sincere assurance that it would be better.
The second category of despots is much worse than the first, because these people are perfectly aware of what they are doing. Moreover, it brings wealth. Such despots have a wide enough scope and can be very loyal and tolerant. Many do not even notice that next to them is a real despot. A despot, in turn, does not show his true face, until someone gives a slack. The peculiarity of such despots is that they torment those who love them or those who fear them. With a person who does not feel any strong feelings for the despot, he simply can not cope, because he has absolutely no leverage of pressure. But a frightened or in love person can never give a proper rebuff and is always afraid of losing a despot or being an offended despot. These are the despotic natures. I think many saw how the boy was insulted, even beats the girl, and when she tries to rebuff him, she starts shouting: "Be silent, otherwise I'll leave you, I'll leave you!". This is the typical manifestation of conscious despotism. Man perfectly understands what exactly he does and skillfully uses the weaknesses of the one whom he mocks. Such despots never change, because they behave in such a way absolutely consciously and get pleasure from it. With such a person it is very difficult to fight and try to stop it somehow, since its main task is self-assertion at the expense of others at any cost. Therefore, if you meet such a despot, you should not try to convince him or open your eyes to reality. It is best to just walk away and not allow yourself to experience any feelings for the despot.