Well think, it is very likely that you put exorbitant hopes on every young man you meet, and therefore expect too much from him. However, not everyone is immediately ready to withstand pressure, to think about the seriousness of their intentions, to start expressing something really serious about the woman, and also to show initiative.
Try to immediately "pull yourself" inwardly, if your next "dream" looms on the horizon. If a good man has appeared, this does not mean that you have to grab for your hands and feet and try to keep it in every way. Think mainly about the fact that this is a man with his own tastes, thoughts, intentions and aspirations, and 50% of how your future together will depend also on him. You do not need to run ahead of the engine, just let the events develop gradually - let everything go on as usual, let everything take shape, you do not need to show initiative. In some cases, psychologists advise simply "to release a problematic environment" - here and there you can try to act on the same principle. You should not wind yourself - "this is what I need - my dream, I have to put every possible force, this is my only chance." Just think - "hmm ... interesting young man, let's see what happens from this" - and stop at this thought.
1. Allow the man himself to show at least some initiative, see how he does it, what exactly he manages at this time, and then analyze his behavior: he is persistent and active, shy and shy, or does not know himself yet, what he wants from you, and apathetically demonstrates his interest. Depending on how he behaves, you can build and their behavior.
If he himself is active, you can gladly accept his courtship, but do not rush into personal initiatives - perhaps he will like to independently seek the attention of the girl.
When no initiative comes from the young man, weigh all his strengths and weaknesses well, and then decide how much you really are interested in a person. Perhaps, it is necessary to wait a little, and he will "join" the process himself, take a closer look, and in the relationship real progress will be indicated. And maybe he just does not want to continue these relations, he does not intend to translate them to a serious level, and it will be better to finish everything quickly, while making room for something new, and to take initiative from time to time.
2. If a man does not show initiative at the initial stage of the relationship - does not write, does not call, does not call, disappears, then it only informs you that he is not much interested in you. Therefore, before you attack it with text messages and phone calls, think a hundred times whether you need this frame, and whether it is better to interrupt this all, so that it will not hurt after your unrealized expectations.
3. Learn to meet the "defeat": does not call, crumples, does not show itself - then, it does not hook, did not like, means, does not want, not approached, not interested. ... Well, what can you do? Remember, but did you always reciprocate your fans? You do not need to bring the situation to the point where you are specifically unequivocally "otoshyut" or start to ignore directly. Yes, of course, you can calm down, having received a distinct "no", but you can believe that you will not feel any better at heart, on the contrary, you will feel yourself "crushed" and "humiliated" after many efforts to establish good relations. Therefore, it is better to step back and stop, while not causing yourself more pain and stop taking the initiative. In the end, if a man really wants to continue the relationship, he will get you out of the ground.
4. Look closely at the life and life of your chosen one, carefully observe the events and trivialities. In some situations, your initiative is just out of place and will cause the man not to vigorously approve, but "otmashku" and irritation. After all, it may happen that your assumptions about the meeting, about general events, etc. will stumble upon a simple lack of money or complexity in their studies, work, and not at the lack of desire to continue the relationship. Taking a pause, the young man will soon be able to return to you and begin to vigorously take care of and take the initiative. But if at such a time a girl begins to besiege him with her attention, then nothing will remain to him, how to remove her from his life.
5. Unfortunately, there is no one "recipe" that could universally help all girls translate novels with interesting men into long-term relationships - "they choose us, we choose", as they say. For this reason, it will be more correct in our personal life to orient ourselves not only to one's own strengths and desires, but also to common compatibility, suitable characters and characters, mistakes and trials, the fate of meetings, and finally. This will help to correctly balance in your mind your activity in the search for the second half, as well as independent moments of life.