The collapse of relations
Even scientists confirm that women tend to react more acutely to amorous failures. For men, love is only a part of life, whereas for the weaker sex, life without love is not life. So, emotionally, a woman breaks off a break with a beloved man as the main rehearsal for the End of the World. For a long time she can not get used to her new social status, adapt to loneliness and realize that He will never call again, and if he calls, it can not be answered in any way, yet pride ... So, how to forget? Where to get the means to permanently erase Him and everything that was between you, from memory?
Psychologists say that nothing to erase, you do not need to forget. What you really need is to allow yourself some time to "boil" in these difficult experiences. Someone has the most "acute" period of three weeks, someone - three months, others argue that "cure" of the novel can be after a period equal to half the length of your ex-relationship. In any case, be mentally prepared, that for a while you will be ill. And there's nothing to be done about it. Give yourself the freedom to cry, throw away his gifts, erase your correspondence, sing along with Whitney Houston, be alone ...
Cried and enough!
However, it is harmful to shed tears for a long time. After the pain is gone - you will feel a ringing emptiness inside and it will have to be filled with something. Note: something (not someone!). The problem of many women is that, once in a relationship, they lose their individuality and forget who they were before the novel.
If you really decided to pull yourself together and quickly forget Him (at least try!) - the first step is made. You begin to remember what it's like to be yourself. Collect yourself in pieces. Put yourself in order externally. Arrange shopping. Change your hair. Do what you have promised to do for a long time. If there is such an opportunity - at least for a week, go on a trip. The new situation is always new emotions. They can fill the vacuum that has formed.
Get new friends. But that does not mean a new love. Of course, many people have the impulse to quickly find a "replacement" and even annoy the former, but this is an incorrect tactic. As practice shows, such relationships rarely end with something good. For a new novel (this time - with a happy ending) it takes time. Time and understanding of what you really want in love.
Let the relationship and the break itself become a lesson
When you assemble yourself in parts, you will see in the mirror an updated lady, who boldly looks ahead instead of engaging in self-flagellation or revenge of the former. This lady (self-confident and sensible) should clarify something for herself. You will have to mentally return to past relationships and understand. What were they built on? What did you want? What have you got? What did he dream about? Was parting a matter of time? Now, having calmed down, do you really (!) Dream about that this novel never was? Or was there just an easy nostalgia? What did the relationship teach you?
When you answer all these questions - the situation can be let go, now completely. You do not need to delve into the past experience, consider it just a useful lesson. Or a dress rehearsal, but not the end of the world, but something new. New happiness. A new love.
If you are still upset and do not believe that she will come - I will tell one secret: your man will never leave you. When you meet him, you will understand why it did not work out with others.