The first factor.
Everyone knows that keeping a spouse with the help of giving birth does not help, it will not strengthen the relationship, but will accelerate the breakdown. But still the appearance of a child is still able to consolidate the relationship - the joint solution of children's problems pushes back their own conflicts to the background. But the child will grow up and everything will fall into place again, the parents will return to their contradictions, while the ability to communicate has practically disappeared. Very frequent cases when the family is on the verge of a divorce, the child starts to get sick all the time, troubles occur. This is an unconscious protest against the divorce of the parents' marriage, which attracts attention. Without a doubt, this is a high price for the family's exit from the crisis period. Sometimes parents who are on the verge of a marriage break find out that they will soon become parents and decide that such a gift of fate is a chance to establish their relationship. In many cases, couples succeed.
The second factor.
The risk factor of family life is early marriage. They are considered to be fragile, because on the shoulders of young spouses there are many problems that they must solve: material, domestic, professional. Marriages between people who "stand firmly on their feet" prophesy a long existence. After a long bachelor life, it will be hard to change for a transition to family life, adjust to a partner, change your lifestyle. In early marriages on the contrary, the period of adaptation and "grinding in" with the spouse are much easier with the help of psychological flexibility, which is peculiar only to the young.
The third factor.
The majority thinks that if the family is forced to constantly solve problems to overcome difficulties, it quickly "breaks", not withstanding such pressure. Others believe that the cause of the crisis in the family is the so-called "stagnation", boredom, commonness, and the difficulties are drawing partners together. A crisis in the family can provoke both the dimensionality of life and its stability.
Sooner or later, a third appears in each family, and this leads to many changes. First, parents are looking forward to the firstborn with great anticipation and joy, and only a couple of months after birth, there is a tension in the house.
Pregnancy, childbirth, 24-hour caring for a child tires the young mother. The exhausted wife constantly expresses her husband's complaints, accuses him of everything, insists on helping her with the au pair. The father is not silent: he constantly reminds that he is also working and is also getting tired, and if she is not able to cope with domestic duties, then she is a bad mistress and mother. Such a man's opinion about his wife is not very good, he thinks that it was her fault that there were problems in sex. And since the male half do not like to find out the relationship, that's why they try, how can they appear at home. Often it is at this moment the first adultery of her husband - he is looking not so much for sex, but for the most part free ears, he needs to pour out claims to his wife, prove to himself that he is still a man.
The fissure between relations is getting deeper, the problems of the family are beginning to grow like a snowball. The help of relatives (grandmothers, grandfathers) to the young parent has a positive effect, at least for the weekend a tired young mother can rest from daily worries. But sometimes, on the contrary, this complicates the relations of the spouses: the older generation is very fond of, and sometimes can not restrain and not express their opinion, evaluate the young parents. More often negative. In addition, in such cases, the young father is hardly attracted to socializing and caring for the baby, he begins to feel unnecessary, over time, he thinks that money is expected from him. It's always humiliating for any man. As a result - more time with friends, added overtime, the probability of betrayal is constantly growing. In response, he receives even more claims from his wife.
The family life of a young couple is comparable to a boat. In the first year after the birth of a child, their "family boat" is so actively swinging that it can easily go to the bottom. According to statistics at this time, the greatest number of marriages of young couples are disintegrating. Although there was such a wonderful beginning.