Such a scenario can be called ideal, such pairs become less and less. But unsuccessful marriages - more and more. What is the reason? Unclear. But what can be said for sure, is that men lose their confidence after parting with their beloved girlfriend.
A man is a male, he must win a female, because the girls do not worry much about this, but men ... They develop complexes that in the future prevent them from getting to know the girls. Even worse for those men who have lived with a girl for a long time in marriage, but without children, and then - a divorce. They begin to understand that they are already at an age, and the chances are getting smaller and smaller every day.
After divorce, a man does not start looking for a soul mate, but thinks only of his former. He asks himself the question: "How to get rid of thoughts about a former woman." On the Internet, a bunch of topics with a name that people try to help a bachelor, but many of these people have never found themselves in a similar situation. In fact, forget the former is quite simple, because the thoughts of the former woman - this is nothing like a lesson for the brain. A man has nothing to think about, so he is clogging his head with how his life did not work out, that everything is bad, the woman left him. But life does not stop there. We must continue to live and continue to enjoy life. The man who is now in this situation, laugh at these words, and say that this is impossible. But he did not even try.
Men are divided into several categories. More precisely, not even so. Their thoughts are divided into several categories. There are those who think about what will happen to their ex-woman and do not try to get rid of thoughts about the former woman, but there are others who think only of themselves.
First of all, the reader needs to understand what kind of thoughts he dominates. At first it is rather difficult to do this, but it is necessary to try, because it is on this that your further actions depend.
Although ... It all depends not only on you. Much depends also on the woman you are trying to forget. Remember how she told you that she throws you? Did she explain why? Did she say anything about this? If so, then skip the next paragraph, and if not ... then read carefully.
Women - these are creatures that for all necessarily find the reason. For example, suppose the situation: do you want to have sex with your wife, what will she answer you? She will not tell you: "I do not want to," or "I'm sick of it." She will certainly find this cause, she can be both stupid and serious, but it's still the reason, for example, how her answer would sound: "My head hurts." Well. Now let's step on it. If a woman always finds the answer, and does not answer simply: "I'm bored with you, so I'm leaving," then there is some more viscous reason. You have to find out. Try to call her and invite her to meet in some quiet place. Then she immediately begins to say that she does not want any more relationships with you, but you must tell her, keeping calm, that you just want to discuss what happened. In 80% of cases, she agrees. At the meeting, be just as calm that will give confidence, both to you, and your former second half. As soon as she comes, ask her what she would like to order. Be nice to her, as if on a first date. As soon as she answered you, do not immediately ask the question that interests you. Ask her about her current life, how she has changed since leaving. And when you already normally communicate with each other, go to the right question. Ask why she left, what was the reason. But do not take the answers like: "You stopped liking me." This is too generalized answer. As soon as she specifically answers your question, you can continue to have a nice evening with her, well, after you analyze all her answers. You have to understand what was wrong, that she did not like the most in you. What was the reason for that.
So, let's continue. Now you know the clear reason for your parting. You must take into account this defect, correct it in yourself. That is, to become better, show your thoughts about the former woman that now you are much better, and even your ex is not worthy of you. Understand, now she does not want to be with you, and you are with her. Now it's a level lower than you. No matter how strange it sounds, but it is.
Now imagine how your ex is living now, imagine that she can not have her thoughts, she thinks only of you, and she can not help herself. And here you are! You have already half mastered yourself, now imagine what your future will be like. Plan it, you can even write it on paper. Imagine a very beautiful girl next to her, she should be more beautiful than your ex to a minimum of 2 if possible. Imagine only yourself, now she is ready for anything, just to be with you.
Thoughts will not disappear immediately. It's like a memory that needs to be filled in to erase obsolete information. And what needs to be done to get information? That's right ... you need to start implementing your plan, maybe it's impossible, but you try, you should get half of the whole idea.
In words, everything is fine, but in action ..., not all get to meet a girl and find out the reason. You can try talking to her on this topic on the phone, but there is a high probability that she will simply put down the phone, which will drive you into an even worse state.
Here it is better not to take risks and go the other way. Meet the girls, go on dates. You should definitely get it. Plunge all this into it, correspond with the girls, maybe a spark will slip through and you will succeed. And then you have to ask: "Why is there so many girls for this? ". It's simple, you again show that you are worthy of much, there are many girls around, and many of them can be either worse or better. You are completely obsessed with choosing the best, you will enjoy listening to their stories. All this will erase the information about the former, which will be a positive moment.