I'll give an example. One girl met her boyfriend for two years, but they lived in different cities. They corresponded almost every day, but met once a week. A year after such meetings, they began to live sexually. He already had girls before her, but she does not. During their acquaintance they often had quarrels and reconciliation, he even cried a couple of times with her. Soon he stopped visiting her because of his work, as he said. And she believed that he truly loved her. Once she learned that his mother does not like her, and he has a certain pen-friend. He did not answer the questions, and she wanted to part. But he immediately came and gave beautiful bouquets of roses. She forgave. And it all started again ...
And then some decide to turn to a psychologist. A good specialist can not always give you an answer to this question, but he will try to lead you to the right decision, and most importantly, he will help you understand your situation. Sometimes we do not know which question to ask in order to get the right answer. To do this, you need a psychologist who will do it. He will tell you what to do when the relationship is at an impasse.
What can a psychologist answer? Can he really help? Many people are so tired of problems that they think only of the bad, but they are rarely believed in good. But there is always a way out, it's just that it's nice and not very good!
This situation is complicated and confusing, it is not so easy to solve it. It's very hard to say something when you are not heard, trying to find out what is happening, and it's just as hard to part with your loved one, even if your relationship has reached a dead end. We need to understand for ourselves: what is more important for you - to be with this guy, regardless of everything, or, despite the sense of loss, to accept your position?
But we always forget to ask ourselves what we expect from relationships that are initiated more from the female side than from him? It should be remembered that quite often such a relationship can reach a dead end. In the above example, the situation is such that the guy shows interest in the girl's life from time to time. And this shows that he is flattered by her attention, her love for him, but for more he is hardly ready. Love reigns only in her heart.
The girl thinks that he does not appreciate her. But he forgets to answer another important question: how does she appreciate herself? Because in order for us to be loved, we must love ourselves!
If there are incomprehensible moments and questions in the relationship, they must be solved and asked immediately! Do not postpone them, otherwise it will be too late, the relationship is deadlocked, and time is spent. It is very difficult to find a new person in spirit, so you need to determine for yourself what we expect from these relationships and ask your guy about the same. We often just do not ask questions, and this is a problem of many pairs. They just do not talk to each other about what bothers them. And this inevitably leads to misunderstanding and the severance of relations. And our task is to preserve and cherish them. This is the task of each partner in a relationship.
What should I do when the relationship is at an impasse? There is no unambiguous answer, since all situations are special. And the responsibility for making this or that decision lies with you and only with you. You have to understand whether you are willing to tolerate or not, whether you want to continue or go better ... And this all requires moral strength and determination on your part. There can be many Soviets, but the decision is still yours. Listen to your inner voice and give yourself an answer ... And never be afraid of anything! Life always goes on, even if it seems to you that everything is over, and many more times will present you pleasant surprises!