The Reasons for Vengeance
If vindictiveness is one of the features of your character, then there are no special reasons to cause inconvenience to others, it is not necessary. Such people take revenge for a random sharp word and for more serious misconduct.
If you know how to keep your emotions in your hands and are ready to forgive people for their mistakes, then revenge for you is an extreme remedy. Revenge is not in vain called the source of evil, because the desire to revenge causes the worst emotions, excites all the base that is in man. For the sake of revenge, people decide on strange and cruel acts, which they are difficult to expect in ordinary life.
Psychologists note that people with low self-esteem, a complex attitude toward their ego, unsatisfied, touchy and weak are more likely to be vomited. Any ambiguous act of those around them is an attempt to offend or offend, so they try at all costs to prove their own worth, which is often not disputed by anyone.
Perhaps the most frequent reason for revenge is jealousy. It is in love that the most terrible wounds are applied to us and it is love that is valued above all. Therefore, any attempts by anyone to intervene in the affairs of the heart cause a desire to nip them in the bud and teach the offender a lesson. Sometimes public opinion finds excuse for revenge, but such cases are really rare. In ordinary life there is always a more worthy alternative.
How to take revenge?
The decision to take revenge on someone comes, as a rule, in the heat of feelings. But it's hardly worth pandering to such emotions. Think about what you will achieve if you take revenge? Do you teach this person something, or will you make more people angry? Do you deserve respect or do people think that you attach too much importance to what you usually do not pay attention to? Will you personally be better off from doing something bad to someone, given that you yourself do not experience pleasant emotions from someone else's actions? It is worth a little thought and calm down, as it becomes quite obvious that revenge is not the only way out. It's not for nothing that they say it's a dish that needs to be eaten cold, because in a hurry and on emotions it's more likely that a person will make mistakes, and not correct the situation.
The main rule of revenge is adequacy. Choose methods that will not lower you and count so that your revenge does not look like you destroyed a person's life just because he looked at you strangely. Otherwise, the victim in the eyes of others will no longer be you and, accordingly, all the condemnation will get to you. It is important to clearly understand the consequences of your actions, because people blinded by a thirst for revenge, the parts go to conflict not only with others, but also with the law. In fact, only a very few actions and offenses deserve revenge, in most cases revenge looks like a petty attempt to prove something to others or to themselves. Which, of course, does not paint a person. On the other hand, vindictiveness often leads to such consequences that it was difficult to predict and these consequences make one regret what he did, but it is too late to correct something.
Deciding on revenge, we rarely think about the feelings of other people. Nm does not matter that the offender can suffer many times more than we do. We often do not take into account the casual grievances and the desire of the enemy to go to reconciliation. And revenge only for the sake of revenge can become the only meaning in life, which is always scary. Perhaps if you decide to let the emotions cool down, then the very need to take revenge will come to naught or the choice of the means will be the most reasonable