Some women believe that such a good friendship is impossible in principle, others refute this claim. Let's figure out which of them is closer to the truth.
The answer to the question "Is friendship possible between a man and a woman?" Was interested in both, at all times. No wonder so many aphorisms are devoted to him. For example, Otto Bismarck once remarked that a good friendship between a man and a woman is weakening with the onset of the night. I have a friend, by the way, a tall, broad-shouldered, handsome man, who has been dreamed of by a dozen ladies. We spend a wonderful time with him: we chat about everything in the world, we exchange novelties, we go to the ice rink and to the cinema, if necessary, we help each other in some domestic issues. I think that friendship between us is possible only because it is not my type. And I probably do not belong to him, because he never made any attempts to "get to know each other better" (and I hope he will not).
A man-friend is irreplaceable
Most people say that there is no good friendship between a man and a woman. But at first glance it may seem that such kind of friendly relations are solid pluses. First, there is no competition between such friends and, as a consequence, envy. Your friend will not envy the fact that you finally lost 5 kg, go on vacation in Bali, or bought shoes from Christian Louboutin at a discount of 95%. On the contrary, he will even rejoice and pay a compliment if you, of course, persistently turn his attention to it.
Secondly, as my colleague says: "A man-friend is an irreplaceable thing in the household". Well, what kind of friend refuses to change the good friend of the outlet or see why the light in the kitchen does not burn? And if necessary, and bring a ride where you need, and the gentleman will depict. Thirdly, such a friend is indispensable not only in the economy. He can give really worthwhile advice. And this applies not only to traditionally "male" issues like technology or finance. No one is so good at interpreting the behavior of a man as another man, so your friend will always be able to explain to you why your lover is such an "insensitive fool," and suggest how to make it better with him. Yes, and as far as wardrobe selection is concerned, a friend can give a couple of practical recommendations.
Different approach
Alas, I must dilute this honey with a fly of tar. The fact is that the approach to friendship between men and women is somewhat different. No wonder they say: "A man is friendly in the hope of continuation, and a woman - knowing that there will never be a continuation." Most men, in their own words, first of all see in a woman a sexual object, and only then the mind, a sense of humor, a love for football or sports cars. And there's nothing to be done, nature takes its toll. As for us, women, here, too, everything is not so simple. If a male friend will not hunt us down, even a little, we will be offended: am I so unattractive? And if it does, then, if neither you nor he meets with anyone, sooner or later the relations will go beyond the bounds of friendships. There are several possible variants of the development of events.
You both regret it, and in the relationship there is some awkwardness, you communicate less and less, until the friendship comes to naught.
One of you begins to want more, the second one arranges such a sex in a friendly way. Jealousy begins, control, clarification of relations, quarrels. In general, and the friendship ends, and the relationship has not begun.
You understand that you are simply created for each other. You have common interests and principles, perhaps common friends, you know each other well, and most importantly - you are very well together. What is not the foundation for a serious romantic relationship?
Safety regulations
But let's return to the most common variant: you are friends, and you want that so all and remained. Of course, you are not against a couple of compliments or small gifts, the main thing is that they do not commit you to anything. Is it possible to count on this? Psychologists answer in the affirmative. But with one caveat: between you there should not be sexual overtones. For example, if you are both unfree and happy with your mates; you are a couple in the past, forgive each other and would like to simply communicate in the future; you are friends since childhood and literally became a brother and sister. Of course, there is still a friendly relationship with a man of unconventional sexual orientation, but for us it is rather exotic, and deserves a separate topic.
However, in any case, maintaining friendly relations with men, it is important to observe several simple "safety rules".
Determined in their feelings for this man. And if this is friendship and nothing but friendship, one way or another, let your friend understand this. Do not pity about what could happen between you, but it never happened or happened, but not as you wanted. Do not be jealous of a friend to his chosen ones.
So that there are no misunderstandings and ambiguous situations, introduce a friend to your chosen one and from time to time mention it in your conversations. But only in a positive way, in any case, do not complain about your loved one. Such words can be misunderstood: they say, you are looking for "comfort".
And finally I want to say this: it's not so important where and how you met, why your relationship was friendly or that unites you. It is important to remember that friendship with a man is not very different from friendship with a woman. These relations must also be developed in the same way, fed with regular communication, common interests, they must be invested, not only taken, but also given. But there is a difference. In friendship with a man, the main thing is to intuitively feel the line, for which if you want to keep such a friend, you should not step over.
It happens that girls start to maintain friendly relations with men in the hope of more. Like, I learn more about him, he will know me better and understand that it is better not to find him. Of course, such happy ends happen. But much more often in melodramas than in real life. Here everything can end a little differently: having been a few days a lady of his heart, you will return to the status of a good friend again. So if you have romantic plans for a potential friend, let him know about it in a feminine way before you start looking at boxing and inviting each other for beer.