In the behavior of children, it is often possible to observe such situations when they go against their parents and cease to obey them. The main reason for this behavior is that the child gradually loses a trusting relationship with the adults around him. However, parents do not always clearly understand why the behavior of their beloved child has changed so much. In addition, many of the mothers and dads are in this connection in utter confusion and do not know what can be done in such circumstances.
Imagine one of the trivial situations: a child, plenty of playing with your favorite toys, contrary to all your requirements on the subject of removing them in their proper place. Usually, parents respond to the child's disobedience and disobedience, but as can be guessed, such parental behavior can not teach a child to fulfill the demands of adults. It is necessary to try to find other approaches or incentives to evoke in the child the necessary reaction, and hence behavior. For example, you can offer your child help on their part to bring the house in order. The child will inevitably appreciate this attention and will surely remember this.
If at another time you come across a similar situation, then most likely the baby will already go to help you. All without exception, parents should remember that each separately taken child is not yet an adult, but already quite self-independent person. And like any other people, children too are prone to panic or to be irritated if they are actively coerced into anything. Parents should set themselves the goal to learn how to present their demands to the child as gently as possible, or even better - imperceptibly.
Teach a child obedience is entirely within the power of any adult fool. For this, the following simple recommendations are required:
Do not be angry or scream
Under no provoking situations, one should not allow oneself to manifest negative emotions. If a child does something that you are very annoyed or angry, then keep all the negative in yourself, but do not throw it out on your baby. This does not help to teach him unconditional obedience. Moreover, he may well start again to do what you have abused, only to spite you. Infinitely cursing the child for his antics, you will grow "drop" your authority in his eyes. It is possible that he will start to run around, close in himself and stop trusting. In the future, this can strongly affect your relationship. The child can start to hide something, thinking that you will again scold him. Instead of shouting and cursing, it's best to calmly explain to the child what you did not like, and tell him how you can fix it.
Do not limit his physical activity
Do not limit the freedom of your child. This applies to all his physical activity. Let the baby like to run, jump or play before, how much he wants. This brings him a lot of positive emotions and helps to throw out the accumulated energy, and as we all know, it has a lot of children. A lot of playing and tired, your baby will not want to make a prank.
It is also recommended to arrange joint games as often as possible. This will allow you to better understand your child and will bring you even more together. The more time you spend joking, communicating or having fun with your child, the higher in his eyes will be your parental authority. It is through the games that you can unobtrusively explain to the child what you want.
Have patience
You must have a huge patience. It is very difficult to bring up obedience in the child. This process can not happen quickly, let alone overnight. Therefore, show patience at the same time, when the educational process does not give you the results you need. This does not mean that they will not manifest at all. A positive result will necessarily be achieved. But for this, the child needs to be given the necessary amount of time so that he can believe in the sincere and benevolent arrangement of the svashi side.
Develop hidden talents
It is important to develop the abilities of your baby. Encourage the child a large proportion of perseverance, drive his thoughts away from various prose and the best way to obtain obedience from him is through an emphasis on his talents. Any child has this or that set of apparent abilities. It is the parents who must open them in time or discover them. Children in themselves all the time show a tendency to any kind of creativity, activity or hobbies. Watch carefully what causes your child genuine interest. In the end, you will only have to support his aspirations and beginnings in some way.
More often praise
Also do not forget that all children are in desperate need of praise. This is the way parents can express support for their child. Think about how often you praise your child. A considerable number of parents do not think about this at all, and for each insignificant occasion they actively express their dissatisfaction. However, when the baby behaves quite well and approximately, the praise is usually forgotten. Because of this, there is often a delay in development in the child's self-confidence, which will inevitably affect it in the future. Only when the exemplary and positive behavior of the child does not go unnoticed, is actively encouraged, the child himself gradually begins to strive for such a form of action in order to deserve praise.
Speak in an appropriate tone
Pay attention to the tone that you talk with your child. If you tend to constantly speak out to your child for endless teaching, talk to him irritably and use elevated intonations in speech, he will hardly want to obey you. With all children without exception, it is necessary to communicate very calmly. Even in moments of obvious disobedience to the child and his bad behavior, a calm confident tone will bring a much greater effect. If you are in your own mood, he will most likely release his aggression and gradually calm down.
Pay enough attention
In order to achieve true obedience of children, it is necessary to give them as much attention as possible. By the way, all children's psychologists say this with confidence. If the child is naughty, behaves defiantly, then this is the first sign that he wants to attract attention. And first of all, your parents. Lack of attention is very painfully perceived by all children without exception. However, many adults do not quite understand how important it is, unfairly believing that their main task is to provide the child with clothing, food and warmth. But it is only necessary for you to spend a little more time in communication with the baby, being interested in the course of his thoughts, hobbies aspirations, as you will immediately note that the need to seek obedience of this side has disappeared by itself. And meanwhile, nothing special happened. Just the child felt necessary, which means that he will have a desire to keep such attention in any way, including by exemplary behavior.