It often happens that a child with angelic behavior, having reached the age of four, changes drastically, his behavior becomes uncontrollable, the kid constantly races, fits, begs, argues and snarls with the elders, primarily parents. And right now, from parents, first of all, patience is required. It's much easier to scream, insult, rude baby, give a pope than to have patience and help your child survive another stage of his growing up.
Four-year-old children are very self-interested. They actively learn the world around them. At this time, the child begins to form a relationship to the surrounding reality, to the action of others, a positive or negative perception of the actions of adults. Already at this age forbidding something to his baby, you need to form not only a ban, but a concrete explanation of the ban, that is, not just "not allowed", but "why not."
At this age, it is important to teach the child to analyze his actions, making a clear distinction between a good deed and good. For good deeds you have to praise, and for bad disgrace and not to criticize, but to explain what is wrong. It is important to let the child know that he is a very nice and beloved little man, but what he does is not good. Communicate the music to a certain culture of behavior, because "sow" now, then "reap" in the future. Teach to respect the elders. It is also important to teach the child to observe the order in the house, accustom him to home affairs, but not by shouting and orderly tone, but by joint fun-filled activities in a playful form. So you will not beat the hunt, the reverse, cause interest and positive emotions.
At the age of four, the baby needs to communicate with peers. Such communication forms the skills of attachment to other people, outsiders, this is the beginning of friendly relations.
Four-year-old children are very much hurt. Criticism in their direction should be justified, but not very harsh. Malysh needs your recognition. Children of this age need a "way out" of knowledge, so the mission of parents is to fully and completely support their child in the knowledge of the world around them.
Often happens that the child, before he madly loved his mother, with the onset of four-year-oldness begins to reject it and say that he does not love her. It is necessary to take this moment calmly and without offense and disruption. Perhaps your baby needs more manifestations of love, attention, and most importantly, recognizing him as a person striving for independent action.
Below are the main recommendations that help to smooth the difficult relationships between children and their parents:
- Encourage the child to do positive things. More often praise him than punish. Thus, the baby will develop a positive optimistic attitude to life.
- Smile more often and have fun with your child. As much as possible pay attention to your child, walk together. Positive attitude makes the child happy and healthy, and joint pastime will give a basis for warm relations in the future.
- Listen carefully to your child, communicate with him, do not contradict sharply, even if you do not agree with the opinion of your baby.
- If you promise something to your child, always fulfill your promise. So you form a responsible attitude to their words from an early age. In addition, disappointment and false expectations greatly hurt the child's psychic.
- If you have forbidden something to a child, then it must be forever, and not today, but tomorrow you can, because your mood has changed.
- Never insult or call your child.
- Try not to discuss the family problems with the child and do not conflict, as this will greatly disturb your baby and will injure you.
- If the baby screams or beats in hysterics, try to keep calm, it is better to press the baby to him and hold him until he restless.
Parents of a four-year-old child need to decide what kind of person to raise: an open, kind and pleasant or closed and embittered egoist. Children, above all, copy the adults, so pay attention to their behavior, the relationship of each other, the culture of behavior in the family. If you do not like something in the child's behavior, look for the "nail" in yourself. The best education is an example of harmonious family relationships. And although the upbringing of children is a very difficult matter, but for thoughtful and intelligent parents who not only teach but also learn by themselves, it is possible to master this process.